Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers We lost the spark, and I feel guilty. Part#3

Another tough morning. I'm trying to figure out how we are going to part ways, yet neither of us can afford rent and our bills alone. He said he'd supplement my salary and give me a few hundred dollars a month, but it is going to be nearly impossible financially until December... I'm so scared about this. My other option is moving to my parents' house in Arizona, but then I feel like I'd be starting all over again. We've agreed to stay in the apartment together until we've paid off our credit card/car, so that will be about two months as long as we put all of our monthly earnings towards them.

Then what? I have no idea.

You'll figure it out.

It's very sad. Make up you mind that today you are going to be as happy as you can.

Start figuring ways you can make your life work if he leaves. You are not helpless.

It may mean you need to move in with your parents for a while. Some people don't have parents who will take them in.

You said you hate your job. Figure out what skills or education you need to get the job you want and start working toward that.

Write down specific things you want to tackle in counseling so you are prepared for tonight's appt.

With regards to the inheritance, I'd definitely keep that separate. It sounds like he's trying to manipulate you with regards to the money....saying he's gonna help you on one hand and then having a fit on the other. Be fair, but take care of YOU. Stop the pursuing....stay strong and continue to work on you.



MrBond...that really hit me hard. I think that applies to so many of us. It's a good way to think going forward.