Do you have a resale book store or thrift stores where you live? I often see Codependent No More in those places.
This is one of the hardest things you will ever do but you stepping out of the victim identity and taking control of your life, your thoughts, your feelings can make your whole life so much better.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
You can even order it as an ebook on amazon and read it right on your computer. Then you won't have it laying around the house. I also did this with "how to improve your marriage without talking about it."
bug is right on. listen to her. amazon rocks! i buy used books all the time. just bought 3 for 12 bucks. my library is startin to look like a MC's bookshelf. lol
So my husband came home today and I [censored] it up big time. He came into the room and demanded to know what all the money I spent recently was. I calmly explained it to him.
He wanted to know what we were doing, in terms of the future. I said I didn't know. Neither of us can afford an apartment on our own. We fought about how much money each of us would get, and I told him I was taking my inheritance back. He started screaming and telling me how selfish and greedy and what a betch I was. I told him that I need to take care of myself. He pushed the knife block off of the table. He was angry that I haven't told him where I've been going every night. He told me that I was selfish this entire relationship and never cared about how he felt. He told me how he gave up so much to be in this country for me. I cried a lot. He told me that I was effing his life. I said you were supposed to come to counseling with me. He said that after I did this, he'd never come again with me. He doesn't feel it in himself to work on it.
