No contact is very hard to get under control. Before I got it to a good point, I would first call my buddy so he could tell me to STFU. If I still wanted to contact the W, I would call her friend to tell me to STFU. If I still wanted to call, I would post on here for one of you to tell me to STFU.
People telling me to STFU and the time it took to go through all those steps usually calmed me down so I didn't have the urge to call anymore.
Use the people around you that are there to help to get through this. It took awhile for me to find those people, but once I did, they are the only ones I talk to now.
M-40 W-33 D3, D4, SD13 T 9 YEARS M 5 YEARS ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012
Well I think I have a pretty good handle on things. I did call and text to much this last week. But I think those short bursts are important, One of her main problems was thinking I do not care,I have been doing more to show her I do. We have had allot of dialogue.
She definitely wants divorce, but that is complicated. We have a few business and that is like I said complicated. She talks about us later. Nothing major but every once in awhile slips up and says new peices to her puzzle. Has done here and there for awhile. She definitely enjoys seeing me. She has come to my arms on two different occasions. She let me come over this morning that was the second time I was allowed. We hugged quite bit more than we ever did. But not in front of kids. My child has a sports team competing this month, my wife is looking forward to being able to go and sit together. She does not say that but she definitely is sending that. Some one smart once posted that if she is giving you little peices of her accept it. And enjoy it. You have kids together so be patient.
I tried deleting his phone number thinking I didn't have it memorized. Guess I did...