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No, exactly the opposite if anything.

Meaning you pick wimpy guys so you can feel in control?

No, I definitely like being around laid back people. Guys who know how to compromise and don't make a big deal out of the littler things, like whether to have Mexican or Thai for dinner.

As for criticism, it's obviously nicer to be complimented and appreciated. If people are going to make criticisms though, I prefer them to be plain about it. My dad can be very manipulative and play the martyr card and that is a huge turn off, drives me totally nuts.

Roger called me last night, I let it go to voicemail. He was letting me know that he was considering adopting a black lab. He wasn't sure if he'd need a reference to put on the adoption papers, but if he did he was wondering if he could use me. I haven't called him back yet.

I think the only thing that needs to be said about it is that this dog needs to get along with Kelsey. He's going to have Kelsey for two weeks next month while I'm at annual training and potentially for a year if I end up on the UN Kosovo mobilization next rotation.

I'm almost tempted to tell him to just take Kelsey if he wants a dog that bad, but I know part of it is that he hates seeing dogs get put down and, so long as they get along, Kelsey will have some company when she is over there.

WAsn't Kelsey Roger's idea in the first place? Sorry I would tell him to keep her unless you are deeply attached. Good for letting it go to voice mail. I would drop him an email if you decide to let him use you as a reference. No point getting on the phone.

Big hugs, kat

Kelsey was the result of his friends asking if someone could adopt her yeah. How can you not get attached to a puppy? I would miss my running buddy. And Sunday walks with my friend Joanna and her three dogs. And having someone to cuddle on the couch with me. But it [censored] because I know I have to spend so much time away from her.

Now he's IMing me.

ARGH!

I'm in agreement with kat. Since you have to spend so much time away from her and she has such separation anxiety might it be better for her to just have a stable home with Roger? It would be really hard, I know, but if there is a possibility you may end up on that Kosovo assignment (WHAT? When did this come up? Did you say something about it and I missed it?? ARGH!) then maybe it's for the best.

Her separation anxiety and my house being her "home" was exactly his reasons for not taking her with him. And he's also using that to justify getting another dog - so she'll have someone to play with when she's over there.

Kosovo is a possibility, but that's like a year from now, so plenty of time to figure things out still. It's still unsure who is going exactly.

I have a Dutch friend working for UN in kossovo. You will have to come visit, you I'll stay with us. IF you go....

Michelle, don't let this bring you down.
Xxxxxx
M

M, that sounds like a plan! I will definitely keep you posted!

Things are moving along here. Roommate (Amber) is moving in to the spare room on Sunday. Still feeling all over the map. I'll have a good day, but it never seems to last. Working out really helps, but it's only a temporary boost. I'm really excited about the Van Halen concert Sunday night, but I'm also just moody and not feeling anywhere close to 100%. Hadn't talked to Roger much this week, he IM'd me this am.

[10:15] roger: Hey there
[10:25] roger: Just curious... why you haven't brought over puppy
[10:25] mi: hey
[10:26] mi: I figured with the short work week she'd be fine
[10:26] mi: didn't seem like zoe was gonna be over or anything
[10:26] mi: not to mention you said your lawn needed recovery time (I guess zoe was really browning the lawn, so the combo of both dogs being over really did a number on his yard)
[10:28] roger: OK yeah my lawn is doing better. finally...lol
[10:29] roger: Yeah... so anyway. just thought I'd check in about pup. ttyl
[10:30] mi: ok