(((((LEE))))) I am sooooo happy for you!!!!!! What great news--the ILYs must sound like music to your ears!!
I am also so glad to hear he wants to start MC soon....you have no where to go but UP from here!!!
Keep re-reading DB, keep your expectations low and rembember tht little thing called pateince...you are doing great!!!!!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
Quote: I talked about my fears you see, in a way that i haven't since he came home and he responded very positivly.
Would it be alright to ask you more about this? What was different? What had you done in the past that didn't work? Do you think talking like that was the key that opened him, or was he there already and this was just the icing on the cake? I hope these questions make sense.
I also have many fears that I would like to discuss. I want to talk about the fears ABOUT me, not fears about HIM.
I am very happy for you. You finally got your breakthrough. That is what you are waiting for.
Your H has started to see how much you mean for him. Keep on your DBing. It seems to work very well.
My situation is not that good. After holiday, my W is back again with the om. She is planning to move out in May. This time I said to her calmly that I care for her enough to let her go. It is her decision.
Well, i finally have a bit of time to give you all an update on the saga that is m life!!!
In the last episode, H had just declared that much wished for phrase ILY and i was very happy to hear it. The next monday i recieved a parcel from h, and inside was some stuff i needed from home + a gift and a valentines card. The card had a very touching message in it and was sent well before he told me verbably ILY, but it was written there in his hand writing!! I was both surprised and thrilled. H then arranged to come and visit me over the valentines weekend, and for the most part we had a really nice visit. There where a couple of tensions, but we handled them well.
I'm now back home, got back last friday, and yesterday i think was the TURNING POINT. Every thing in my life seems to be going well. Work is heading in the direction i want, and i got some very positive feedback on that yesterday. H and i had lunch together, before H's job interview, and guess what? He got the job!!!!
I tell you, i haven't had such feelings of love for my H in so long that it was incredible!! I was totally consumed by feelings of passionate love for my H and i tell you it really showed, yesterday i felt so very very happy!!
Today.... well i know that it is going to take alot of hard work on both our parts. I had my C session to day and he helped me to clarify what i need from H at this point. He also raise some very interesting points in that he thinks that H my be very dependant on me, thus why when i was away with work, thoses who know my stich will understand what that means, things kinda fell apart for my H......this is something that we need to work on as a couple.
Right now, i'm going to get back on the DB wagon and now i think i will be able to ask for what i want, as i really feel that this has now become a team sport!!!
I'm optimistic about the future, i know that we have a long road, but i think that we're going to get the. My PMA is so high i think that i can fly!! Funny though, it's all me and no much to do with H, it all comes from me making me happy!!
I know that i haven't really gave you much details, but i will, promise. For now, i just want to enjoy this joy and share it with all of you, my friends!
I am very happy for you. You are in heaven. It is so nice that you have so much love for your H. Some times away help, isn't it?
Maybe I should be away for a month for business. It will give my W some sense of separation with me. So she knows that her unhappiness is not caused entirely by me. I went to business trip last week for only 5 days. But it does not seems to help. I knew my W is checking on my cellphone. My SIM card has a PIN number and was blocked because someone played with it. I checked with the kids. They said they did not touch my phone. I am just wondering why my W is checking on me. Does she worry that I have a lover? Why does not she stop seeing the om outside work? Does she expect me to be faithful while she is unfaithful (selfish)? A lot of questions. No answer.
Anyway, continue doing your DBing and I really happy for you. Hope you will soon have a wonderful M as you always dream.
Hey Lee- I was just over here browsing around in piecing, so glad to read your latest post! I think I could see you smiling all the way over here!! I'm so happy things are going well for you and that your sitch continues to move in the right direction. It's so great to read threads like yours, I remember when I first came to the board your's was one of the first threads I read all the way from the beginning. Boy, you have come a long way!!
Where are you lurking these days? Do you have a new thread? I don't think it was the going away that provided the difference. I think it just gave my H a chance to put into action some of the things he had been saying.
Remember, my H ask ME if he could come home, so he is the one who expressed an interest in repairing our R. I had had almost no contact with H prior to this revelation in mid Dec.
How's your dbing going? Might be a good time to reread it and start the program from basic's. I found this really helped me and kept me focused on what i wanted to achieve.
I really do know how hard it can be but i applied alot of patience, no expectations and worked on maintaing a high PMA.
Let me know where you new thread is and i'll check in on you.
Quote: He also raise some very interesting points in that he thinks that H may be very dependant on me, thus why when i was away with work, things kinda fell apart for my H......this is something that we need to work on as a couple.
wow. my C said something like that about my H too!
Lee,
Congratulations! You sound wonderful. Keep up the excellent DBing (great idea on reading the basics again).
Hey, Lee! Wow, sounds like things are going great! Good for you, it's been a long haul and may still be one, but I can't wait for the next installment! {{{{{{{{{{{{Lee}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
