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MrBond, like today I have no mood to go and work so I took a leave. I wish to go down and see him but something just stop me from doing so

"something just stop me from doing so"

YOU are the "something". YOU stop yourself. YOU can overcome that.

I think I spend more time on your posts than anyone elses. And the biggest problem is that you don't do anything but complain.

I did go and see my son and play with him. How can u say I did nothing?

What are you talking about? You just said that you wished to see your son today but something stopped you.

All I did was answer you. I think you really need to start reading the posts carefully rather than complaining.

Remember this list you have given me.

1) Leave your wife alone
2) Start spending time with your son ALONE.
3) Write a list of all the things that your wife complained about you. A detailed list.
4) Then write a list of all the things that you will do to correct those things your wife complained about.
5) Get a new haircut and a change in clothes. You have to change both outside and inside.
6) While you are making your changes, don't tell your wife you are making these changes. These changes have to be for yourself. If you keep telling her you're changing and expecting her to notice, she won't believe that your changes are real.

I have already done step 1)

Step 2) I am not allow to spend time with him alone so I can only bring him back on the weekend and enjoy some past time with him.

Step 6) I am not in contact with her for about a week so I never tell her about the changes. I don't even text her when she text me last Sunday with regard to GR. am I doing this right?

I maybe stupid and I admit, please advice me

"I am not allow to spend time with him alone"

Why not? You're not a prisoner. You're his father. You have as much right to see him alone as your wife. Talk to your lawyer about this. You have a right to see him alone.

"I don't even text her when she text me last Sunday with regard to GR. am I doing this right?"

If there is something that has to deal with your son, then you talk to her. Talk to her about what the best way is for your son to feed, to change, etc. Show her that you are interested in being a good dad.

MrBond, I am sorry for keep complaining but I really miss her very much. I have not see her for months as she is avoiding me.

I miss those days when she was at home with me and my son.

BUT SHE DOESN'T!!!!

She wasn't happy because you were controlling and weren't helping with your son.

You need to stop thinking it's all about you, and start trying to see things from HER perspective.

Of course, that's just my opinion ....

Yes Drew,

I am careless and selfish those days causing her to leave me. How I wish I have waken up earlier.

Wake up now.