Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy AFFAIRS- Do you tell the Other Spouse?

Yes, you are correct, 25. The ow in my sitch was indeed nuts.

I'm not sure if I ever updated about this but she began emailing me articles on divorce and helping children through divorce about 2 months after the A was exposed. As well as articles on how to tell whether your spouse is in love with someone else or cheating on you. Oh, and she also signed me up for numerous offensive websites using my real name and my children's names. Sick, self-centered and truly dangerous. H's eyes were open to her true character before D-day as the cracks were already showing. D-day really blew the lid off the crazy pot though.

Anyway, I took that message from Michele as referring to family members and friends and that telling them about your spouse's A would hurt the chances of reconciling. I have never told a single family member or friend. I debated telling my parents because I know they would be supportive but they would be terribly hurt and disappointed so I opted not to.

I was the last to find out about my H's affair and I wish someone had told me it was going on. After he came home after 6 months of separation and we started piecing, he restarted the affair. The OW's husband sent me a text message telling me they were back together. Thank God! It was the best thing that happened to us. This is when the OW showed her true neurotic colors and when my H finally came out of the fog.

I wished someone had been a good enough friend to me and my marriage to tell me. People knew. I just may have herpes or be a carrier now. :-(