One thing I've noticed my ex has little of, is patience. Seems to be a recurring theme on these boards, no?
Something else that ocurred to me and just getting out of my head is the recent interaction. She is delaying getting some paperwork to me. PA behavior. Been going on for months and is very clearly in violation of the sep agreement/divorce. Why? I haven't the faintest idea other than control. She wants desparately to get me out of her life. But it occurred to me that she originally said it was her. Then me, then searched for a reason. Now she's added a lack of trust. I look back and I can find no reason to not trust me making me think that if you lie, you can't trust others. And if you want something to be angry at, what better than somebody you trust. Conflict. Justification. Teetering on the brink of insanity...
No matter. She may stay that way for ever. I hope not, but it is likely. I see she is lately trying to play lawyer and Southern Belle. It makes for some hilarious emails. I don't respond because I want it to stop and her to go away, but we have kids to parent. So I just file them for later when I need a laugh or when I need to prove something for the lawyers. One example: she said she was "knowingly" out of the country when I asked for the paperwork. I almost snorted my drink through the nose as I thought, " were you ever unknowingly out of the country?"
It does have its moments of hilarity...The words "thus" and "per the agreement" do make me laugh as well. Especially since she still hides behind that as a way to get her way. Like watching a two year old tease the cat and hide behind her mother's dress. I do have to admit I'm sometimes amused by the wording and outlandish stuff. Not enough to provoke any longer, but still...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
