An addict is an addict. You aren't to blame for another's addictions. We all have choices in how we handle out problems.
It's not about you or the OW being enough, it has nothing to do with people or feelings about people. He probably doesn't see either of you as people, but rather as a means to feed his addiction.
Unless he sees it as a problem and gets help, this behavior will continue.
Do you want to you live a life like that?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
thank you for your reply! No, I do not him back as he is right now... What I want back is the man with who I spent the most beautiful 12 years of my life... I want the loving H he was... I know that at this point I cannot have him. I also know that I may never get him back... He needs to fix himself. Sometimes I feel sorry for him and I am thinking of talking to him about this *with proofs*. I want to help him.
I know that I am not perfect either and that I have a lot to work on myself. But this is serious... It is like he will ruin his life because of this addiction... All these years he was looking into porn and cyber sex and I did not know! I trusted him 100%... I never snooped or check on him. I thought we had a good M...
Sorry for venting... It is just too much to digest. I cannot believe that he has been into this stuff since 2007... Before we even got married... Sigh
Me: BW 30 Him: WH 31 T 12 years, M 3.5 No kids OW 27 single ex co-worker
Bomb: 13/07/2011 S: 13/07/2011 - 16/09/2011 H came Home 16/09/2011 Dday: 01/10/2011 H left again 23/11/2011
