At least for me I'm more likely to click on a thread if something in the title speaks to me. Find what makes your sitch unique and more people will probably respond.
Personally I'm more likely to click on a thread if it has one of the following keywords:
Military (I'm military too) Young (I'm 28) Nice guy (as in I was so nice it made me weak)
And a couple of other key phrases that had to do with my sitch.
It really helps for folks who can relate to you to find your thread
my personal interests are military as well, or marriages over 10 years or with kids...
and of course the ones who seem to be in acute pain.
They Just need the strength to get through their day and to believe their lives can get better and that they will survive.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
My husband is ex-military...honorable discharge 3 years ago from USMC. I'm also interested in any military sitch.
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
I understand what you mean, but as someone who was new not all that long ago, I really appreciated them. I just wanted to hear from someone, and typically they were pointing me in a good direction (an old post to read, etc)
I don't think they are impersonal, especially when you are still on moderation and anxious to get a response.
Being a newbie my self I'd have to agree with Autumn, because you are crying out for any help at first, and just need any contact. I certainly wasn't offended by them, because there's enough good stuff / advice in the can to get past the impersonal element to it.
Just as long as we don't start getting canned laughter when you open up your own thread, now that I would have a problem with ;-)
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
I understand what you mean, but as someone who was new not all that long ago, I really appreciated them. I just wanted to hear from someone, and typically they were pointing me in a good direction (an old post to read, etc)
I don't think they are impersonal, especially when you are still on moderation and anxious to get a response.
Being a newbie my self I'd have to agree with Autumn, because you are crying out for any help at first, and just need any contact. I certainly wasn't offended by them, because there's enough good stuff / advice in the can to get past the impersonal element to it. Just as long as we don't start getting canned laughter when you open up your own thread, now that I would have a problem with ;-)
good one
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
What are the thoughts on some of the canned responses some posters are leaving? I do like that people are quickly replying to new people, but the canned responses seem impersonal.
Well since you posted this, you have made NO other posts on the board. Canned, bagged, or video taped.
So I have archived a few (a dozen or so) that I use often enough to do that with. Why?
b/c 80% of the newly reeling LBSers need to hear 80% of the same stuff to get them through their day or that hour.
And for detachment, there are pieces that don't need me to re-invent. And for the "rules" that apply--give them out.
And my DB coaching advice that I got over 18 sessions and took many notes from
those are things I summarize and hand out b/c they helped ME!
I wrote them out on note cards and carried them around for ME and made them into mantras...
I would not be able to post at all if I didn't ever borrow from my past ones, so
no regrets here for doing that.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
