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You might be on to something there - I had dared not hope that myself, but there may very well be something to it... withdrawing even from her family like she has (plus other bizarre behavior) does, now that I think about it, suggest that it would be surprising if there WEREN'T some degree of confliction...

Not trying to mind-read, but again it seems like this kind of stuff happens on the heels of me showing her something positive. It's possible she may be a little envious of the new life I am creating for myself and it's either a "Hey, look at me, I am creating a new life for myself as well!" or she's trying to push some buttons. She definitely knows it's not thoughtful on her part, but she will verbally justify doing it.


You enjoy the weather, too. We were pushing 90 yesterday and we're supposed to be well into the 80s today.

I just wanted to check in with you JB.

Stay the course my friend. You are doing really well.

I need to begin a new thread when I get an opportunity. One thing I want to share with you is that my W admitted to me on Monday that she made a huge mistake. She said that she was being selfish and that things are much more difficult than she ever expected. This is the result of a couple of things that came to a head. One, as you know JB, I have began to date someone. Two, our daughter point blank told my W that she hates this new life and she wants her to fix it.

I don't really know what is going to happen in my sitch as a result of this revelation, but I wanted to share it with you JB and anyone else that is seeking a little hope. My new GF is aware of everything and understands where I stand. There is much more to update and I will soon.

Be well my friend. Talk soon.

Hey JB! Just checking in with you. I don't post very often but do check in on some of favorites regularly. Glad to see you are still tearing it up in the GAL department. I swear I feel like I've had a killer workout every time I read your updates!

You are a great man to stay the course and keep it as classy as you have done. All along, I've told you that if your wife decides to not return to the marriage for a chance at reconciling, I fully believe she will have some serious regrets. She is very lucky to have a man like you as her husband and the father of her son. I pray she realizes this sooner rather than later.

With regard to om ...perhaps I am a bit biased, but I believe your son doesn't mention him because in his mind om isn't worth mentioning. Just a thought. I mean, in comparison to you, his hero, how pathetic must this guy look?

Hang in there and know that I still keep you and yours in my prayers. Whatever happens, you will prosper. Jeremiah 29:11, my friend!

love and hugs...ncl

PS...quick update, things continue to go very well and improve as time goes by in my sitch. I am forever grateful for DB friends like you who help guide me and keep me as sane as during this journey. xoxo

LITB, always glad to hear from you, my friend.


Thanks for that. When I'm able to rise above my situation, I think I am doing better than would normally be expected in my situation and I believe it.

Yes, I've seen it here several times. When things come to a head it seems like it's a turning point. I don't know if things are coming to a head or not yet in my situation, but they definitely will at some point in my situation.

That's interesting your about your W admitting she made a huge mistake. I'll be interested to see how that turns out. That might be nice to hear my W say something like that some day. However, I'm not necessarily expecting it. I think if she were able to convince me she had turned from her ways and was committed to changing herself and working on the M, that may be a good start.

ncl! It brings joy to my heart to get on the board and see that you've posted on my thread!


I believe, too, this will happen someday. Will it be too late by the time this happens? Who knows? I'm still giving her the grace to make her mistakes and still trying to keep the road home as paved and smooth as possible.

Sometimes I'm doing fine and sometimes it drives me crazy. There's times where I really, really like the direction my life is heading. And at the same time I don't like where my W's life is heading at all. I don't want to be part of that. But then there's the times when I feel lonely, despite being around people, because I crave that relationship.


Thanks for that, too. You're the best. My S has already said he doesn't like him at all. I've wondered since this guy is always a passenger if he has driving privileges or a vehicle of his own.


Yes, that's one of the verses I keep replaying in my head.

I'm thrilled to hear things are going well in your situation. Know I am so grateful for you as well.

JB,
Good upbeat posts here, good to see them. You are continuing to act in an honorable way. I have to think that someday, who knows when, when your w comes out of her fog, she will realize this. I am hoping the same thing for me and everyone else on this board.

Enjoy the day JB

Thanks for the words of encouragement, gunny!

Wednesday night I took my S to hang out with some friends I've made through my church. They have graciously decided to watch the dog while I take my S out of town on Spring Break, so we wanted to make sure their dogs got along with mine.

Yesterday I received an interesting email from my wireless carrier. It told me my W's cell number had changed. Interesting. Of course, it had me wondering why she had done such a thing. I figured either she had upgraded her phone and she had to change her number or she was trying to hide from someone. I was leaning toward the latter. She finally did text me about 1-1.5 hrs. later and tell me she had a new cell number. So I guess she wasn't hiding from me. I did decide to ask her if there was a particular reason. She replied, "Not really...". I could see that conversation was going nowhere fast and I wasn't likely to get the truth anyway, so I left it alone. TBH, I'm kind of worried about her.

The handoff with my S was a non-event last night for the most part. She was running late again and so was I. When I got ready to leave, she rolled up in the driveway. She was alone this time. I just kept going and waved at her on my way out.

Men's group was good as usual last night. It's been something I've really been enjoying.

Last night, I watched UC/Ohio State in Basketball, then I got a little crazy . About Midnight, I hopped on my bike and rode 26 mi. Crazy times call for crazy actions, right? It did help to mitigate the anxiety I was feeling yesterday.

Today so far I only have a very low level of anxiety. My W and I are scheduled to get together for taxes tomorrow. Fun times!

"My W and I are scheduled to get together for taxes tomorrow. Fun times!"

JB make the best of ^^^^ this as possible. I would not ask her anything regarding her or phone number changes. Why are you concerned about her? Is she in danger?
Keep up the good work.

Ps I will get the color font thing soon. lol