alaskangal, Glad to see you posting, don't stop! Thanks for dropping by and posting on my thread. You don't know how much it means to get as much support as you can. I'm getting stronger by the minute, hope to stay M though even if H never comes home.
I do have back up plans, for IF we end up D. KK knows what they are. One of them is to move, somewhere warmer and closer to friends . Some would frown on that, saying that even after a D you should try. But not me. If my H goes for a D, I am out of here. He may never see me again.
So be strong, you can do this, with or without your H! Go girl!
I was just thinking that I have had this incredible love in my life all along and He has always been there for me...even when I wasn't there for Him...His name? God and He is GREAT and He is Almighty and He is loving and kind...and He knows just what I need, even when I don't....so I will place my faith in Him and I am sure to be just fine...
You seem to be doing just great...I wanted to sing "I'M Alright...Nobody Worry ABOUT ME...Somebody Give ME A Sign...Why don't you Just SET Me FREE...Do What You like...OOOOOOH living in a fantasy...." but am not sure those are exactly the right words....and perhaps not what you want to hear right now...but the I'm all right part is true enough..cause baby you are all right....with or without him...you ROCK! Will post this at your site too..to be sure you see it....take care!
Considering what is going on in your sitch - you sound great and positive!
Have you started a list or journal of your H's activities (financially and otherwise) so that you can recall them easily a the time you need to get a atty?
If you go in with the fact that he left you little money and essentially abandoned you, I think it will go a long way in establishing what you get - house, money, etc.
Otherwise, good luck in the job search. How is the market in AK? How is your son doing?
Hang in there and keep the faith.
Thanks for stopping by. I figure that if everyone else here can keep it together and keep their patience then so can I.
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"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Thought H was gonna get new phone number when he got bill...but worked a way around that...security coded phone number and have bill being sent to a friend's address...am going way dark for next two weeks....and am Loving it. Peace of mind...serenity...no abusive language ....it's so nice. Makes me think life without him might be the answer. Will continue to pray for answers..now that am over initial anger. Also, am putting my important belongings in storage...to protect my interests...Just MY stuff...none of OUR stuff. Being fair.
None of this is easy, and I feel for you. Some choices may be hard to make, some easy. But it's still your choice. Watch where you walk, because sometimes there are piles of dung to avoid. LOL
Good PMA day today...ran into a girlfriend and made plans to go out with her...getting a social life again is good for the soul...not drinking makes going out cheap...and even though I am still married ....I can still look at the merchandise...it just has to stay on the shelf for a while...LOL
Stopping by to say hello. Checking out the merchandise is always permissable isn't it? What I find attractive is a man in workboots! Don't know why it just does. I was an event last year and there was a guy there that owns his own construction company and is doing quite well, but he showed up in his workboots. Now everybody else was pretty nicely dressed and this guy was, also. But the workboots said to me "I'm a worker, I don't sit at a desk all day" a man's man I guess is what I'm attracted to!
Well praise the Lord, I do believe he had to go to work today which would give me at least another two weeks alone with son....and NO H. YIPPPIEEEEEEE SKIPPPPIEEEEEEE Peaceful house, eat what we like, watch what we like, go to bed when we want...no Mr. Selfish sitting in living room dominating tv and expecting to be waited on....woooohooooo.......it's good to be with son and not H.
And, am going out with girlfriend tonight. Sure wish I could shake fear of poverty...but guess for now I can't do much about that ...so have roof over head, food in fridge, and heat is on, electric's on, and phone works for now....we'll see how long he pays the bills...he probably will stop soon and son and I will be SOL....but we'll manage somehow....make do with less...be happier in the long run with more serenity and peace in our lives.
Smile everyone ....God has given us all another chance to go and make ourselves a great day today!
. Some would frown on that, saying that even after a D you should try. But not me. If my H goes for a D, I am out of here. He may never see me again.
