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IMO I don't think you should say anything. I don't see any benefit in it. He is safe and you said yourself that you trust your h as a father.

They are going to do what they want to do. When you get back you can modify his sleep schedule if you feel its needed. You know s better then anyone but I think you will come across as nagging or judgemental so I would just let it go.

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S15 S10 S6
Married- 11 Together- 18
Bomb- 6-2011
WAW moves out- 8-2011

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I was coming to the same conclusion- just needed someone to push me over to that side. I still have a hard time not reacting from an emotional place when it comes to OW, so I never know if my thoughts are logical/rational or if they are from that emotional place- thanks for reinforcing my same conclusion smile


I realized, that I sound very negative- and that I actually have had a lot of fun on my trip so far. GAL so far at my G-ma's:
- last night, she taught me how to make her shrimp creole. She from new Orleans and LOVES hot and spicy food- so mine will probably be toned down a bit.... And I don't know if I can ever make it taste as good as hers smile
- (my aunt lives across the street) I'm going into her studio and get to break glass! Very therapeutic!!! She makes a living creating fused glass jewelry and larger wall hangings... She offered for me to make a piece, but I think I might just stick to breaking glass for her smaller pieces smile


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T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12
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First of all, ask yourself why you want to say something about the nap schedule when you are 2000 miles away.

How does it affect you, right now?

Do a 180.

Let it go.


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M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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purg,

let go of what you can not control. enjoy your trip and focus on you (sounds like you've been doing great so far!). the time will pass soon enough and you will be back w/ your sweet babies!

when's your boudoir shots? sexy sexy! think of how great you'll feel having those!

what's on the agenda for today?


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Been really busy- more so than I thought I would be! Here are some highlights:

* MIL said that she could see the purg that H fell in love with coming back to life. THIS MADE ME FEEL SO GOOD!! If she can see it in only 2 days, hopefully H has seen it too
* I made some jewelry in my aunt's studio: a pendant that has both boys' birthstone colors on it. I was only going there to help her prepare some glass, but she taught me how to make my own piece! It was really nice to be creative for a little bit.
* I made a nice lunch for my aunt and g-ma (dad's mom). G-ma sat in the kitchen and kept me company while I cooked, and she even wrote down the recipes that I was using. I haven't talked with here one-on-one in a long time- that was a great memory.
* Got to my parent's house and was reminded how good it feels to have people love you for who you are.
* Today, I spent the day with my GG (mom's mom)**side note: I am closer to this woman than my own mom. She knows ALL my secrets- and she'll probably outlive everyone in my family because she does Yoga, pilates, and water aerobics 5 days a week- at 78 years old!!** She took me to breakfast and did a little thrift store shopping. I got some super expensive jeans for only $7 AND (the best deal of the day) and entire lady's golf club set and bag for $20! It's not the most expensive set you can buy, but it's a great brand, they are in good condition and since I'm just beginning- I figured I'll drop the big bucks if I ever get really serious about the sport!

Some interesting things happened with H too:
* Yesterday, I missed 6 phone calls and 3 texts from him while I was in the art studio. I panicked because I thought something happened with the kids. When I called back, he told me that his orders had been changed- and he calmly told me the whole story and what the new plan is. He's still going to AFG, but it got pushed to July. I told him that I appreciate him keeping me in the loop and that I was impressed how he got it resolved so quickly (there were some details that could have affected the next 5 years of his career if he didn't fix this within a 10 minute window.) This was actually a 180 for me because normally I would have gone into how *I* felt about the news, and then put the attention back on him (something that he specifically told me in MC one time.)
Why did there seem to be such an urgency to tell me this?? He could have waited until our normal phone call in the evening with the boys.... I want to see this as a positive.

* Last night, H had the boys in our house by 7 pm (2 hours earlier than he normally does) Which means he didn't hang out at OW's house.... trouble in paradise?? I didn't say anything about him being home earlier or why.

H still doesn't call me except to talk to the boys at night. I know we shouldn't have any expectations- and I've been pretty good.... part of me was hoping that after a week without me around, that he might reach out a little.

Ok, off to the movie's with my mom.... not exactly the hot date I would hope for- but at least it's with someone who loves me smile


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Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
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I'm glad you're enjoying your trip. Have fun at the movies smile

H is most likely questioning his decision, no matter what he lets you see.


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D 7
S 4
Bomb 11/11 Confused about feelings for me.
Bomb 12/11 ILYBNILWY, moved out
2-1-12 We're exclusive & dating each other.
3-4-12 H moved back in.
3-31-12 I deserve better. I'm done
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about your H... i sort of wondered on the urgency too. and 6 calls to tell you?? it's happening in july.. not tomorrow. interesting.

glad you're having fun and surrounding yourself w/ people that love you. really rejuvenates you and helps to refocus. what are you going to go see?


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How do you feel about the dep being pushed back? Be nice if they wouldnt' extend it on the other end and it will be a shorter one too!!

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I went to see the new movie Safe House... Really intense from 10 minutes into it until the end- no love, nothing mushy... Perfect!

As far as we know, his orders have been pushed back to July, but his return is still August '13.... Gotta love the military- you never know if that will change before it happens.

When I talked to my babies tonight- they were at home again (can you hear the grin in my voice?!) S6 was being mean to the baby when I called, so I had to listen to H do the discipline- and I felt helpless. But listening to him calmly handle the sitch, I was reminded that he is an awesome dad and my boys are lucky. When H got on the phone, I didn't ask what happened or offer any suggestions. (it's times like this that I'm reminded why I love him and why I still want my M)

Hope everyone has GAL plans for this weekend!!
Little known fact: the first Mardi Gras celebration was in Mobile, AL.... So, even though it's a few weeks away- they are celebrating now! The first (of many) parades was tonight and the city was stupid crazy! Can't wait to see what happens this weekend smile


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T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12
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where are you? i thought you were in FL. i'm confused. lol

mardi gras sounds like fun. i have never seen one except in the movies. poor deprived canadian frown hahaha

making mental note that "safe house" ok to watch. i am staying far far away from "the vow".

must have been nice to know H was at home. i had a tiny glimmer of happiness yesterday to find out H was hanging out w/ his bro and wife instead of out partying.

have a great weekend! actually.. i know you will!!


Me:38.. H:33.
Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3
M:8.. together for 11.
Bomb dropped:10/17/11
Separated:11/07/11
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