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Well last night when W got home from work it occurred to me that even though this is her idea I am the happier one right now.

Is she realizing that the grass isn't greener?
Is she having second thoughts?
Will I learn to read minds?
Would I want to know what she's thinking?

Ahh, the joys of the ramblings of the LBS mind.

Taking D6 to her IC today, W said the C wanted to talk to me. W took her to the last appointment, her first, so I am hoping she painted an accurate picture of the situation because she tends to deny, or at least minimize the effect her decisions have on the kids. I also don't want to over emphasize those effects. It's a fine line.


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Me:46 /W:37
M:13 /T:16
D's:19,18,17,6
S:10
W filed 8/15/11
Court 9/21/12

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Well C went well for D. I hate that she needs it, but at least she is getting it.

W texted a few times, seems angry at the world. Realized that it's not my problem. Kind of made me smile a little.

I want to go to the courthouse to see if she filed all the paperwork to get divorced. Do I want to know if we will be divorced on the 29th or if it will be rescheduled? While they say ignorance is bliss I just need to know.

D18 stopped in for a visit, then D19 stopped in as well. Nice night having them both visiting. They grow up so fast.

Won't see S10 and D6 again until Sunday morning when I pick them both up for church. I hate these long weekends without them.


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M:13 /T:16
D's:19,18,17,6
S:10
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Court 9/21/12

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I know how you feel about the D paperwork. I check my emails hoping that my L says W stopped the proceedings. But no luck so far. Waiting for the court date really stinks. Hang in there


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Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

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glad you had a nice visit w/ your older Ds. as for sunday.. it's only 3 sleeps away!


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Thanks for the encouragement B.F., Lord kmows I need it!

IC tomorrow, can't wait! Also started reading No More Mr Nice Guy, describes me to a t, I have a lot of questions and work.

Time for bed 3am comes fast. Night all, and God Bless.


Michael

Me:46 /W:37
M:13 /T:16
D's:19,18,17,6
S:10
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Jusr rambling .....

Snowy today....everything looks so clean and white.

Can't seem to get Sunday off of my mind, I know I can't acknowledge the day, and I also know I am being delusional to think W will acknowledge it. Just hurts to let it go by like it is just another day.

Other than that I am having a pretty good day, lots of plans to keep busy over the weekend.

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if wife acknowledges the day won't it be a nice surprise because you have NO EXPECTATIONS? and if she doesn't.. you're no worse off.

hey! just noticed you're from WI. my MIL just moved there!

2 more sleeps until you see the kids! in the meantime.. it's nice you have plans to keep busy. take care


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Ok so W texted and asked what would be a good time tonight that we could talk on the phone .... I have a sense of impending doom in the pit of my stomach.

I know I don't know what she wants to talk about but I am very nervous. We haven't talked on the phone since Christmas.

My intellectual mind says if it was something trivial she would text....but then again if it was something major she would want to talk in person.....I hate this feeling, I know I shouldn't be mind reading but I can't help it! Ahhhhhhgh!!!

Thank goodness for IC today!!!!

On another front, B.F. what part of Americas Dairyland does the MIL live in? I live in east central Wisconsin, just south of Green Bay.


Michael

Me:46 /W:37
M:13 /T:16
D's:19,18,17,6
S:10
W filed 8/15/11
Court 9/21/12

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Ok so I texted W back and said that 6:30 worked for me. A little while later I get a text from OM saying he wants to talk to me and that W says I am available at 6:30.......now what? I have no desire to talk to him. What do i do here?


Michael

Me:46 /W:37
M:13 /T:16
D's:19,18,17,6
S:10
W filed 8/15/11
Court 9/21/12

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I'm new to the forum, and I'm learning a great deal every time I get on here. I don't know the entire history here, buy I'm curious as to why OM wants to talk. Personally, I wouldn't want any part of talking to OM, especially considering the importance that this weekend holds for you. Talking to W about whatever she wants to talk about is probably pretty important, but I would insist on leaving OM out of it. Honestly though, if OM is telling you that W is available at whatever time and he wants to talk too, it almost sounds as though he is assuming a position where he is making some decisions for W. I am hoping for the best for you. From what I've read, you're being a great dad and working hard on yourself. Be strong and hang in there!


M-36. W-27
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W moved out, filed for D after my A. I'm DBing the best I can! Learning every day, praying and hoping.
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