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I'm wondering how she intends on keeping it deom the kids. Especially the older ones. Will be thinking of you.


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D18&19 know D17 I don't know if she knows, she is my stepdaughter but I have raised her since she was 1.

I don't know how to proceed from here.....uncharted waters.


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Me:46 /W:37
M:13 /T:16
D's:19,18,17,6
S:10
W filed 8/15/11
Court 9/21/12

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Mr. I went through a similar situation for mine and H's wedding anniversary in October. I decided that while the last 6 months of my M pretty much sucked, overall, the other 2 1/2 years were pretty good. My compromise to not being with H to celebrate (or commiserate) was to go out to dinner with my dad and have a great steak dinner with someone who loves and respects me openly. Just a thought... Maybe you and your S and D could make a special meal and you don't even have to share the reason why with them?

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I don't know how to do this.
What you all don't know is that my S10 is the result of our last seperation. We both started to see other people, then got back together only to discover that she was pregnant. We discovered that by law in Wisconsin the OM had no rights to the child, which in that case was a good thing because he was a loser and we were together. My S10 may not be biologically mine but he is still my son!!
So I know that she knows the laws, and yet not only did she get pregnant again, but she went to the Dr and got it put on the record .......ugh!

Now her and OM are playing like I am trying to vet this baby for myself


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Wow. I'm speechless.
I will praying for you to find the strength for your own piece of mind.

When you can get your emotions in check (btw- you're totally justified to freak out right now) I agree with everyone who says you need to legally protect yourself.

All I can give right now: ((((mrmr))))


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T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
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(((michael)))Things are going to look very dark right now. There is nothing you can do right now except take care of yourself.

Hopefully your other kids are around to support you and I'm sure they need support, too.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

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I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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First of all take a deep breath.

How many months pregnant is she?
Divorce was already filed, does that give you any type of protection?
Also it is possible that this is
not true or that the pregnancy will fail.

Mr Bond is correct that you need to protect yourself legally, as well as the rest of your family.

Take the anger and turn it into your sheild right now.
Angry is not going to help you.
YOU are the thing that is going to help you.
This is tough but you need to back way off from her antics.
There is no telling what she is going to do.

Just keep taking care of yourseld and your children right now, that is the most important thing.


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Ok so here is what I know.
W had her period last week
Whas been pregnant 9and times and had 6no miscarriages
Wisconsin law fobids D while pregnant
H is legally the father
H,W and OM along with the state all need to agree to change rights
She knew all of this

Today is a new day and as they say .....if you find yourself in h.ll keep moving!

I not only will survive this, I will prosper! God has plans for good.


Michael

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M:13 /T:16
D's:19,18,17,6
S:10
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Originally Posted By: mr mr

W had her period last week

????? and she knows she's pregnant this week? Was she trying to get pregnant?


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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That is bizarre. Yeah, protect yourself here Michael. Do not think twice about her feelings right now (not suggesting malice).


Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


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