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So excited you're checking out the thrift stores- you KNoW that I love them!!!

That's awesome that you found a little of your spark again... Keep finding more and you'll start to feel like you're old self again!!!

Can't wait to hear if you found any deals I should be jealous of

My current new look is wearing tons of stuff I bought ages ago, and that never fit. I did get some cute stuff at Macy's clearance rack.

I have heaved tons of stuff from my closet. I vowed to never agian buy anything with out trying it on, too. No matter what a great deal it might be.

As to a new look, find the one thing in your closet you feel FAB in and then try to get more stuff like that.

Glad you are having a good time!

PS. Please don't give your mother a heart attack.....

Funny about the cat mask:-)
I have been in a similar place, just recently be coming aware that I have stopped doing a lot of the silly things that W and I used to enjoy....when did I become so serious? Anyway good for you that you are finding your way back there, enjoy the ride!

didn't find anything in the thrift store. boo! oh well, always next time. did spend a fabulous couple of hours having coffee and sitting by the window people watching w/ my gf.

keeping myself busy. i think that's the only way to stay sane. working the next 2 nights and then i will spend the rest of the week cleaning house and preparing for our sleepover this weekend! so excited!

S has a school trip this fri to go tobogganing on the mountain. i txted H asking if he was still planning on going w/ him or whether i should make a plan. H said he really wanted to take him. yay! because i really didn't want to go. hahaha. gives me a chance to get chores done.

i am feeling much better w/ the LRT. it really has saved me. i think in the next day or so i will be more receptive to H and not be as "distant". still don't plan to initiate contact but, won't be so short. still doing my mantras. still reminding myself to stop thinking!!!

i'm so excited to go home and give my baby a big hug and kiss! although i had a really nice weekend, i really missed my kids.

Since getting home I have been sitting here watching D2 sleep. So beautiful. It's so nice and peaceful. Made small talk w/ H. Then he tells me that after my call w/ the kids last night D was upset because I wasn't there. I think to myself.. Good! Now maybe you'll see what it's like and how it's affecting them! Lol. I can hope can't I?

Have been thinking about valentine's.. Not sure if I mentioned before.. But I can honestly say that I haven't felt this good about valentine's in a looooong time. Every year I try to think of something nice to do for H and always have these hopes that he will do something grand and romantic. But this year.. I don't expect anything! And so I know i won't be disappointed. It's really calming actually. Instead, I'm going to get 2 little gifts for my babies to tell them I love them and that they are my special valentine's. Feels really good.

H just came to ask if I needed him to do anything before he went to bed. Smiled and said.. No. He kind of looked at me funny. Hahaha. Maybe he's wondering if i've been abducted by aliens.

Sorry I haven't been back!!

How about a Valentine's day gem??? (have you had the financial talk yet???)

OK Valentine's day. Go to the dollar store and buy heart confetti, big red plume thingies, and gift bags- 1 for each kiddo.

Then go buy them small things of candy, a cute little pink, white bear, and something you never let them eat for breakfast.

After they go to bed.... go down and sprinkle the confetti all over the table, set the plume thing in the middle, and set their gift bags with gifts at their seats, along with their breakfast.

then go to bed, and wake up to loving, happy, children.

Screw H



If he gets you anything, say "wow, thanks that's so sweet. With everything going on, I just assumed Valentine's day gifts between us were a thing of the past". Smile, look over at your great loving children enjoying their surprise and let any disappointment drip off and fall to the floor.

Oh, and who said a Vegas trip????

I'm in Vegas, ya'll are welcome. It makes a great GAL trip. 1st drink is always on me.

BF- nice to know we have someone ^^^^^ to help us plan our Vegas trip!!

I'm with you on the valentine's thing. H and I never did a big celebration on the day of- but he always surprised me a few days before, or after. He would fold a dozen origami roses and stick them on pencils, instead of buying me roses (since we were broke college students in the beginning, and then it kinda became tradition.) I still have them all in a box... maybe I should have a small bonfire someday??

Since I'm not going to be in my state on Valentine's (which I planned on purpose b/c I couldn't stand the idea of H and OW being alone on that day while I watched the boys- so know, they will have 5 kids between the 2 of them to take care of!!) I've decided to mail cards and some candy home for my boys- I thought about putting an origami rose in each card- so H can see them when the boys open the cards- and remind him that I haven't forgotten.... but then again, he could see that as me being mean.

sox - yes we did have the financial talk. some things are still being worked out but, i am taking it at my pace and H is ok with that. your list was a lifesaver! as for valentine's.. yes! i think it will be great to surprise them! i'll have to do 3 gifts though because my niece will be here since i'm working and my mom will be watching the kids! no biggie.. love my niece too!!!

purg - i don't know.. i think it might be nice to give your boys origami roses. you can start a new tradition and give them one every year and turn that memory into something new and positive. when they get older, they will probably do the same thing for their loved ones even if money isn't tight.

as for vegas.. oh yes!! would be so much more fun w/ a local!!!!

well.. i went and got myself injured at work. first by a combative pt.. then by a clip.. and to end the night.. a papercut!! it was a full moon. 'nuf said. so tonight i stay home. gives me a chance to tidy up some more.

H and i have had more pleasant interactions. he has been trying and i have been less "cold". had to be in the beginning to save myself. my plan now is to focus more on DB'ing.

2 weeks ago i had to be scraped up off the floor and now.. i feel ok. not excellent.. not bad.. but ok. and that's enough for today.

i'm busy planning spring break. want to make sure the kids have some nice memories and that we don't get stuck at home wallowing. i think we're going to do 2 mini trips. 1 to the island with my gf and her 2 kids.. will be fun to check out museums and stuff. the other one to a little beach town in WA. quieter. would be just the kids and i. will sort of remind me of a trip H and i took the kids on 2 years ago. but S loves the beach so it will be nice to go for long walks w/ the kids. the only thing i'm hesitant about is the almost 6 hr drive!! alone!! w/ 2 kids!!! lol.

oh.. wanted to share this!! a gf and i have been talking about having boudoir photos done. we thought it would be fun and empowering. get a group of women who are interested.. share cost of hotel and photographer.. sipping champagne and munching on hor d'oeuvres.. wearing sexy lingerie and having beautiful photos taken... does this sound crazy????

I think taking those picture would be so fun. Great idea to plan your spring break now. You are way ahead of me.

You would think that your D crying after your call would make H think twice about what he is doing. Unfortunately we cant tell them how much they are hurting the kids they have to see it themselves.