Purg - I struggle with the same issue of the wedding ring. My W has not worn her rings in months, (I'm not even sure she still has them ). I continue to wear mine and often wonder when will be the right time to let it go.
Part of the challenge is that we (me and W) have agreed not to tell many people of our sitch. Although, with W not wearing her rings people must be wondering. Then again when they see me wearing mine, perhaps they put it out of their minds.
Still, I think when I get to the point of being comfortable without the ring, that will probably be the time where my emotional detachment is complete.
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
In my travels around my area I shop, workout, got to the beach and get my gas all a very short distance from OW's house. I have not let it stop me from my normal activities.
I had a lot of rage initially, and had a big laugh because she keeps telling my H she is afraid I'm going to hurt her. He knows better than that.
I saw her again 2 days ago, at an intersection. She saw me and pretended not to. I kept my hands in my lap at my stoplight, because a couple months ago when I saw her I did flip her off as she passed me.
As to wearing your wedding ring, it depends on what you have been telling your family. Do they know? It also is a man deterrant, so wear a ring if you don't want to deal with men hitting on you!
I was wearing a ring my dad got me, aptly a nice gold puzzle ring. As I have lost so much weight I am now wearing the band I got married with.
Good Luck!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
You are doing so good. Isnt it crazy how all songs are about love.
I dont know why I think this and I could very well be wrong but I think you should offer to make your trip 7 or 10 days. I think your H is going to use you going away for 2 weeks as something to unite with other woman. I think if you extend an olive branch of maybe shorting the trip slightly it will prevent him from using it against you. I also think the compromise would surprise him which is always good.
What your former BFF is doing is a sin. It is not your job to offer her forgiveness.
Dont let the anger consume you. Have you made to an Alanon meeting??
Brklyn - do you have a new thread? Can't find you. Hope you're well?
i took off my wedding ring months ago. for me, it feels weird to tell people i'm married.. don't really want to go into the whole, i'm separated.. H wants D.. but hopefully not forever bit. usually just say.. i'm not available. they can decide for themselves what it means.
that being said, do what's comfortable for you! have a great time pretty girl! i am a little jealous. although the sun did come out today and it's beautiful!! this rainy city loves every minute of sunshine!!
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
I've decided to take my ring with me, just I case. My family and friends all know of our sitch- so I'm not trying to keep up appearances.
Tonight is my last night here and I really tried to have no expectations... But there was a little piece of me that had hoped H would come him and choose to spend some time with me. But instead, it's 7pm now and I haven't heard from H ALL DAY! This is the first time in 9 years that he has never called me... Kinda sad.
There are a few things coming up this week at S school, and I was hoping to discuss with H before I leave- because he always complains when he feels like I 'leave him to figure things out'- he says it feels like I'm setting him up for failure. BUT the other option I have is to leave him a note/list explaining the events.... This has also been received, in the past, as me telling him that he's incompetent and I'm trying to control the sitch by telling him what to do.... I CAN'T WIN!!!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
Feel your pain. So do what you think is best and let your H deal with his own emotions. Its all you can do. (Read my last post and you'll see I'm probably talking to myself more than to you Enjoy your trip. I'm leaving Monday for mine.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
I feel for you but... Your H's no contact on your last day is standard script.
And if you think about it, it shows that he still does care about what you do. First time in 9 years that he hasn't called and it's the day before you leave....
Likewise with the school stuff. He's still struggling with what he's doing to you and S because he can't help but get angry, no matter what you do.
He has to work his way through all this junk.
In the meantime, enjoy your trip and take all of our best wishes with you.
). I continue to wear mine and often wonder when will be the right time to let it go. 
Enjoy your trip. I'm leaving Monday for mine.