Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers Living in the trenches....Thread #5

Wheeeee....earthquake!!

Wheeeee....earthquake!!

Ha! Felt it here too, just to the east of DC. I've got a nice new crack in my ceiling as a result...

Man, its been awhile since I've been on here at 3 am. Can't sleep tonight for some reason. Nothing really new to report. W is still having stomach problems...can't keep anything but crackers down. Ive been trying to lightly suggest that she go to the doctor, but she has yet to go.

W and I continue to have overwhelmingly positive interactions. August has been a pretty stressful month for us, but we seem to be getting along pretty well.

We've dealt with a car accident, earthquake, hurricane, W's stomach bug, her summer school finals, in addition to all the other day to day things that go with being the parents of 2 young kids...maybe when these stressors calm down things will start picking up, who knows.

Now nearing the 6 month point since W has been back here. Also pretty sure I'm now over the 1 year mark since we last ML. Blah, that's not fun to think about.

Well, better try to get back to sleep. Good night everyone. Hope you are all doing ok out there.

Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. Had a major breakthrough last night.

update please.

Yes please

Third

Navy,

I don't remember if I have ever posted on your thread, however I am hoping that your breakthrough is great news.

Sorry to leave everyone hanging for the past few days. I have been taking some time to process what happened and also feel out where it puts W and I before I posted details. At this point, I am very confused, so I’d love to get your thoughts.

Well, here we go:

W’s parents came to visit last week. They came in on Tuesday and left on Friday. D5 also started Kindergarten last Tuesday. I took Tuesday off to take her to her 1st day of school and also to help get things ready for W’s parents.

Dropping D5 off at Kindergarten was definitely tough for W and I. W dropped us off and I walked D5 in. After she went into her classroom, I just stood there for awhile, waiting for her to come running out to me, but she didn’t. She is doing great in school so far. She has a great school and a great teacher.

After we dropped D5 off we went to pick up W’s parents. That was pretty uneventful. They were both very friendly to me and I’m pretty sure W has still not talked to them about our situation. We stopped and had lunch on the way back from the airport, then went home and hung out until it was time to pickup D5 from school After that we went out to dinner, and then came home.

All in all, the day was fun and positive, but nothing extraordinary happened from what I could tell….until….

Since it was Labor Day weekend, I took off the Friday before and the Tuesday after. During this time I decided I wasn’t going to shave, just to see what I would look like with some facial hair. I think it was Saturday when I told W I wasn’t going to shave. She replied “I’ve been telling you forever you should grow it out sometime”.

Back to Tuesday night. W had been sleeping in the basement, but since her parents were in town she wanted them to sleep down there and for us to share our bed. It got to be bedtime and we both were getting ready for bed. I had to work the next day, and couldn’t keep my beard, so after we had both gotten into bed, I jokingly said to W: “it’s your last chance to feel my beard before I have to shave tomorrow”.

I totally expected her just to laugh it off, but she reached out and felt it…and then she left her hand there and kept rubbing my face…and well, things just kind of went from there…

We kissed…for the first time in a year. W made the comment that she had forgotten what that felt like. I just kept kissing her.

Things continued to progress…and after one of the most passionate and loving hours I can remember since W and I first met, we said good night to each other and went to sleep.

W was very cheerful the next day and she and her parents met me for lunch near my work. Another fun day. That night we stayed up late playing a card game and had a bit too much wine. W and I kissed before going to bed, but she wasn’t feeling too good so I didn’t push for anything more.

Since then, nothing major has happened, and W and I have not talked about what happened, or where it leaves us. She doesn’t seem to be pulling back much, but I have no idea what she is wanting from me at this point. I don’t know if I want to initiate an R talk with her or not…I guess I am afraid of her telling me it was a mistake. I don’t get that vibe from her, but I’m just not sure.

Last night before bed, W was in a bad mood. I asked her if she was mad. She said she was mad, but that she didn’t want to talk about it. I asked if she was mad at me, and she said no. I don’t know what was bothering her…my only guess is that she was stressed from her schoolwork.

Well, there you have it. This was a TOTALLY unexpected development, and I’m not quite sure what to do next. My plan so far is to just continue what I've been doing and to let her steer the ship.