60%? That's pretty good, Wii - you must be a handsome devil!
I'd say so! I also treat my profile like a resume. For example, with this lady she had mentioned spirituality is important to her so I added a few lines about spirituality in my life. She mentioned the word "compatibility" a couple of times, so I changed a similar word in my profile to "compatibility". Paying attention to key words matters. I also spend time on composing my initial email, again, thinking about who this lady appears to be and what would she want to read. I'm slightly flirty, paying very subtle attention to the physical but talk about themes the lady has mentioned because those are the things that matter in her life, it may be family, faith or keeping up with her sexually (no, I didn't respond to that lady lol). I actually work at this, no "You're hot, let's meet"...I ask you, where do some guys keep their brains?...Uh, don't answer that. I've read numerous times on ladies profiles that they want men to show them that they've read the profile and can comment intelligently on it. I find all this fascinating ...it's getting broomed that doesn't really appeal to me lol. But then, who does it appeal to!
Today I am updating my collection of quotations. When I first separated one of the things I did to keep my spirits up was to write down uplifting quotes I picked up from various sources. I have continued that collection for four years now. So, today I have assembled all my various scraps of paper and am busy typing to put them in my binder. Sometimes, as a gift I print off a copy for people in hopes it helps them in the way it helps me. Here are a few I hope you'll like.
When we die, we lose everything that life gave us except love ~ Henri Noewen
Where you're at is where the blessing is ~ Joel Osteen
Fear and faith both ask you to believe in something you can't see ~ J.O.
The tighter you squeeze, the less you have ~ Thomas Merton
The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them ~ T.M.
Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony ~ T.M.
Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another ~ T.M.
We have what we seek, it is there all the time, and if we give it time, it will make itself known to us" T.M.
Perhaps I am stronger than I think ~ T.M.
the cure for pain is the pain ~ Rumi
Sadness to me is the happiest time ~ Rumi
The rose's rarest essence lives in the thorn~ Rumi
Your task is not to seek love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it ~ Rumi
Don't grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form ~ Rumi
Within tears, find hidden laughter. Seek treasures among ruins, sincere one ~ Rumi
I just finished my quote binder, it's now got 76 pages and over 1,000 quotes. A pretty decent collection I'd say. When I feel like crap I take it out and start reading. Here's one I just picked up, "I attract to my life whatever I give my attention, energy, and focus to, whether positive or negative" Something to ponder.
I sent out a follow up email to the lady. I usually do to thank them when they look at my profile and then I toss in another plug for myself and say something like "I'm easy to talk to and a gentleman" and then shoot for the coffee date. I figure a nice polite email which tells them I actually do notice when they pay me attention is a nice touch. It's worked out OK so far, so we'll see. I also sent an initial contact email to another lady tonight. She lives in my area too. So, the game rolls on.
Hey, is it nuts to approach a lady who lives 45 minutes away? She drives at least. I dunno, why set up a long distance thing. It's hard enough meeting women who are at a reasonable distance...but she's a sweetheart! So do I let my brain or my endorphins do my thinking on this one? Hmm.
Ha ha - Wii, the first boyfriend I had after my ex left was eleven hours away!!!
Now - I wouldn't recommend that (although I have no regrets - he was perfect for what I needed at the time, we're still great friends, and his grown kids are coming to visit me soon ).
But compared to that, what's 45 minutes? If you found the perfect woman, wouldn't it be worth it to spend every other weekend together, and Skype in between?
Uh - Wii - Josh and I have NEVER lived in the same city unless you count us owning our house together now.
When we began dating - we were living 1.5 hours apart. It never stopped us from spending every weekend and our vacations together. Not once. Now he is in Toronto and I am in Muskoka - 2.5 hours apart (app).
Prior to meeting Josh, I dated someone from Orlando. Nearly a 3 hour plane ride away. I was sure he was "The One". LOL When that ended - I swore that 45 min away was my max so wasn't so sure about getting involved with Josh at first. Just look at what I would have missed.
Consider this - space is good. You are still actively parenting. Not seeing someone every day makes seeing them even better. And your daughters' will still get the time from you that they need.
Speaking of your daughters - how are things going? You haven't mentioned them much lately.
Speaking of your daughters - how are things going? You haven't mentioned them much lately.
Barb
Thanks for asking Barb. The girls are doing well. We are presently in the midst of working with D17 re: her university applications. She's applying to two universities within the city and one outside (3 hours away), which her mother and I are not thrilled about. It's hard to know how much is parental anxiety (she's my baby!!!) and how much is valid concern. Anyway, we're in process. The youngest, 14, had her first Ontario Qualifier Meet in gymnastics a few weeks ago and did quite well, not well enough to get to the Provincial Championships in Ottawa in April but there are two more to go and they take your best scores from two of the three meets. She's pleased with her performance, as are we. Next one is in Alliston in late January. This is her last year of competitive gymnastics, she's retiring! She's taking an assistant coaching training program at her club right now. So, their lives are progressing well.
That's great! You can be very proud. You are a terrific dad and one who has done extremely well with co-parenting. You can be a great role model for others here who are thinking of going that route.
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