I still think in this situation in particular, it's a great way to show her the reality of a D. Then again, we're talking about the same person who thought it was no big deal to ask you to move to another town...
Seems like you picked the right smiley! I think you're right. I've been thinking about this, and I think it serves a dual-purpose. I think it gives her a taste of D. I can't say how smooth and paved the road would be if we go all the way to D, and I've moved on by that point - I will probably be a lot less accommodating. I also feel there's certain things that it's not in my best interest or my S's best interest to do or accommodate. I also don't feel like I should set a precedent otherwise, especially if it's just a technique to get my W back.
I just want to make sure I'm reasonable and I'm NOT being the jerk like I feel like I'm being. <- I think this just stems from one my weaknesses - I am slow on my feet verbally. It just means I have to anticipate and prepare ahead of time.
What may you suggest as a change in strategy? I haven't really discussed this particular topic with my DB coach.
Yeah I noticed I had just gone over 100. I had started a post earlier today and never finished. I will go ahead and start a new one tonight so you may lock this thread - I'll just try to copy and paste the journal I was working on over to the new thread.