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I like that little list. I will make one for myself.

"No matter how strong you are, or how determined you might be to save your marriage, I guarantee that your emotions will ambush you from time to time." Michele Weiner Davis

There are some really simple rules I follow. I think you and I are in the same line of work. "If you see hoof prints, think horses, not zebras." I have "catastrophized" from time to time. Stick to the simple = KISS.

I've been struggling lately. It could be coincidence. It could be that I resist intimacy....could be anything.

I will ask H for truth, honesty, and exclusivity as ways to a better M. What HE does with that is up to him. My goal is me now.

Hi MZ,
Hope you're feeling a little better. I just wanted to check in on you and see how you're doing. I've been thinking about you and am hoping things are running as smoothly as possible.

Big Hugs!!

FB

Thanks Freebird. I'm doing well...OK...things have been up and down as we both work on the real changes we need to make in this M.

I'm past the point where I do ALL the ignoring of bad behavior. We've had some good discussions lately.

I've been feeling like I'm past the anger phase and go immediately to sadness when issues come up. Not being so angry helps me to reflect on me and how I'm going to approach it.

Example: H has the bad habit of calling me and then talking to others while he is on the phone with me. I thought he was talking to me this AM and realized someone had stepped into his office. So without saying to me, "Honey, someone just stepped in and I have to take care of this, I'll call you right back," he just starts talking to the other person, but into my ear. It's rude. I'd like to think I mean more than that.

He called me about 8 times after I just ended the call. I had appointments to attend to. We just talked about it on my break here. I was very calm and self-assured about what I wish for in our R. I'm not settling for less.

Good for you MZ!! It's a process as we all know. Some day's are great, and some days you just want to throw in the towel, but as I'm learning each day, sometimes not throwing in the towel makes us stronger.

So many people have told me I'm so strong to have endured what I have and to have to deal with the daily emotions that come with this kind of sitch, but I honestly don't feel strong at all. I look at myself sometimes and ask myself why I would put up with the BS H has put me through the past 6 months, and I feel like the weakest person on the planet.

I congratulate you on where you are at and the strength you've shown throughout this whole thing. You inspire me to keep on trucking and I will always be thankful to you for that.

HUGS!!

FB