Good morning JB, Hope you had a good weekend. See that you are doing outstanding as always. Thanks for stopping by, today is a 3 mile run and lifting, then a meeting with the divorce care group. Talk to you soon, Gunny
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
good morning rick, glad to hear that you are feeling a little better. Was up in PA this weekend at my brothers cabin, also getting mine ready for sale, tough weekend, glad its over.
Hope yours was good, talk to you soon,
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
25, Thank you for stopping in. I think I will continue to use the coaches for at least 3 times more. I have been using Jody. So far she has been very helpful.
Got a call from my BIL who is serving in the navy and is stationed here in Jersey. He invited me over for Thanksgiving dinner. I was really touched, he has consistently told me that i am still considered part of the family and has gone out of his way to make me feel welcome.
Thanks again for stopping by, Gunny
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
good morning gunny. I had been away from the boards for a little while -- and I wanted to check on you. I like the title of this thread a lot. It's so true.
I will keep you in mind today -- I hope you will have a peaceful day. Sending you good thoughts and positive energy....prayers or whatever else I can muster up. You're a good person. Hang in there.
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
Good morning all, Journaling, Had a tough weekend, went up to Pennsylvania to meet with the realtor to get my cabin ready for sale. I hated going back to the cabin, but had to get some things that were in storage.
We will be selling "as is" pretty much fully furnished. This was our second home, it was the place we were going to retire to in 8 years. It is on five acres in the middle of the pennsylvania woods, near the most scenic part of pennsy. We bought it in 2002, and through the years slowly turned it into a very comfortable place. When I went there this weekend, it was almost like my w had died, in that everything in there reminded me of our great times together, and how hard, and how much fun we had making it into a home. And then one day, poof, it was gone. Now it is time to move on. The memories are shattered.
I got the paperwork from the realtor, and since her name is on the deed, i have to send it out to her today. The good thing is that since she is the sole name on the deed, i dont have to deal any more with the realtor. Since she was the one who decided to end our m she is now responsible for following through on her actions. I am out of the loop, which makes things a bit less painful.
Of course, when the place sells, since I live closer, I will have to go up with my brothers to clean it up a little.
At a funeral that I attended the other day, I ran into an old friend of mine who mentioned that he was still looking for someone to move into a cottage that he has on his property. I had looked at the place back in june when my w first told me she wanted a d, but since things were still up in the air, I told him i was not interested.
Well, I went to take a look at it the other day with my SIL who is a realtor, and i decided to put a deposit down to move in in February. I am renting the condo that i live in now(sold my condo in june 2 weeks before my w dropped the bomb)and want to get out of it, too many memories in the place, too many in the complex where I live. So, starting in feb, I will have new quarters.
Right now I am feeling pretty angry, which i know is pretty natural for this time in my sitch. I am feeling like i am being forced to do things that I probably wouldnt be doing if my w had not made her unilateral decision, I am being forced to sell my cabin, I am being forced to move from a complex where I have made a lot of friends over the last 13 years, and I am being forced to completely change my lifestyle in many respects.
Sorry, right now I am just pis45ed!Just venting, dont have too many people who i can tell this to, so thanks for listening, I will return the favor.
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Sorry to hear that your weekend was so tough. I think that with the passage of time, things will become better for you. In the meantime, I think your emotions will continue to be all over he place as you tie up the loose ends of your life with your W. But you are strong and will muscle your way through this tough period!
I guess all you can do is go with the flow and try to keep yourself occupied as much as possible.
There is nothing that says that you can't maintain your friendships with those of whom you were close in your condo complex. You may even find that your friendships grow deeper over time which would be a plus, don't you think?
You should also know that you will always have a place here to turn for support and friendship. And we are all rooting for you to find the silver lining in all of this.
And there is a silver lining, right?
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
