Hi, I think your W is sensing a real change in you, and like DB says they do, she is very intrigued by it. It's making her nuts not knowing what is going on all the time. Just because she wants a D, doesn't necessarily mean it's over. She may feel she has to go through with it because she started it, and has to finish it.
It sounds like you are having a great time with your kiddos. Good for you. I am sure you are really enjoying that. Your kids will thrive with a loving father.
It sounds all good for you. I can't think of anything but positive things to say. Maybe she will start to think about what she is throwing away, because I think you will be able to keep up the changes you have made, because you would never want to find yourself in this situation again. And because the things you have done for yourself make you feel good about yourself.
Look up the words from the song 'Starting All Over Again', or look for the Mel and Tim version on Youtube. It's how I feel about what so many of us are doing with our spouses; starting all over as friends. It's an oldie, but a goodie.
It sounds positive to me also, but I just cannot allow myself to think about that too much.
I just have to accept that for now, we are friends, if she wants more in the future, that is up to her, if that time comes, I'll have to look at where I am at that stage.
It is what it is, a disfunctional family that are getting on!!!
Yesterday she called me 10-15 times, all really nice, no conversations about us, future, past, etc, but thats good, there is no pressure.
At the moment I am really relaxed about everything, I'm moving to the new house this week, I am happy being around her and the kids, although I do miss them, and things are just moving along, we have not spoken about the divorce for a long time, yes, we have spoke about the house, and I've signed that to her, but the actual divorce, no??
I don't know if that means anything, but I'm not going to bring it up, as she may have put things on hold, and I don't want to pressure her into anything.
Hey, DC, I hope your move is going okay. Is the new place much different from where you are now? Is there a backyard for the kiddos?
Maybe she has put it on hold, maybe not. She does see you, however being very pleasant throughout the whole business. Maybe signing the house over to her the way you did with no fuss will give her pause.
Everything is great in my life at the moment!!! I haven't felt as happy as I do now in a long time!!!
The new house is great!!!, I feel so settled already and the kids love it, they are only a 10min walk away!
I feel so happy in myself, not sure why really, but its like there is a force field around me and nothing can hurt me!
Wife and I are getting on great, she is never off the phone calling me!!! HAHA!!! I just smile now, in fact I think she is a bit embarassed by how much she calls! We laugh and smile when we are together and even poke fun at each other, its all good.
Kids are great!!! They seem so happy and I'm loving being with them
We went for the photo viewing yesterday, they looked great, cost me a small fortune!!!
I have bought things for the house, lamps, frame, etc, nothing major, wife is very interested and keeps asking why I'm spending loads of money as I'm only renting, I'm getting big feelings she wants to work on things, but I'm not biting!!!
She has asked loads about the house, she is waiting for me to invite her round, but she can wait!!, this is for me!!!!
She was asking about the drinking again the other day, how I was, etc, told her I was great, I had a bottle of wine in the fridge, but its just incase anyone visits, I look at it everyday and I don't even think about having a drink, she is really pleased and told me I have done really well, I don't think she ever thought I could do this!!!!!
So for now I'm really good, but tomorrow, who knows!!!!!!
We all have ups and downs in our situations, but you seem to be having way more ups. GREAT!! You seem so different from the first times you posted. Much, much happier with yourself.
And your W is noticing big time. Keep up what you are doing and don't start getting into R talks with her. If she is moving closer emotionally to you, don't chase her off with that.
Good for you, let her keep anticipating getting to see YOUR new wonderful place. Hey, we spent loads of money on our apartment when we rented for more than ten years. It's a matter of making it a home. I even put in a new floor in the kitchen.
Now, that's interesting that she asked about the drinking, how you were, etc. Hmmm, makes you think that she is thinking..... Although, maybe don't look at that bottle.
It sounds good, real good, have a lovely day, and pat those younguns on the head for me.
Hi VC, thanks for the support and your kind words!!
Well, she basically killed herself to find an excuse to come around last night, I felt for her at one stage!!! haha
But when she did finally arrive she was impressed and really nice about it, my daughter gave her the full tour!!!
After she left, guess who called again!!!
I was in the bath when she called, its a lovely roll top!!!
She was talking to the kids, then asked to speak to me, my son came in and give me the phone, she said its a good job its not a camera phone!!!, I laughed and said she would be so lucky!!, we both laughed
We talked about the kids, etc, she said that I seemed happy, I said I was, and thanked her for leaving me!!, I said that I wouldn't be where I was personally until she left.
She laughed and said that it sounded bad, but totally understood, and was happy for me, said I was doing great, and she was always there for me, I thanked her.
We talked a bit more, then ended the call.
She called me again this morning 8.15am!!! Just to see if the kids were ok, I said everything was fine, and again we talked about the kids again, all really really nice, just laughing together.
Its all really good for me, but I feel she wants more, not sure.
I was thinking of asking her if she wanted to go for a meal one night, but then thought why?, why risk spoiling everything thats going well, if she wants to go out, or do something, its for her to ask me.
But thanks for the support guys, I am getting there!!! Not sure where that is yet!!!!
If she wants more, let her ask for it. Let her come to you, let her pursue, not you. She sees you over there in your gorgeous new place, having a blast, enjoying your new life. She is now on the outside looking in, and maybe one day she may want to be back on the inside. You really are doing well.
I feel so happy and content with life in general and hope this continues!!
Still no drink, feel great, and still going to the gym!
Wife is still in constant contact, just about,had 15 calls from her over the weekend alone!!!
Its all very nice and friendly, so no issues.
Kids are great and very happy in my new place.
I still miss being with my wife daily, but it doesn't play on my mind at night, and I can go long periods without even thinking about her, so there is development!!
Just keeping ME happy for now, and we are getting on great!
Only issue is OM will be back shortly, so I expect a change in her behaviour, not really my issue as long as there is no problems with the kids!!!
