sunny and warm but supposedly the infamous "Santa Ana" winds of dry HEAT will soon arrive and fire season will come. But for some reason I haven't heard as much lately about them, so I'm hoping the fire season has mostly passed us. Arizone and Texas got them this year. Thanks for asking!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Well, can we drop the issue of my d's gender orientation now?
It's really not something I meant do talk about here
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Our 80 degrees of last week has given way to very Fall-like weather. We had lots of rain and strong winds all w/e and I just saw the weather report. Rain in the forecast every day for the next week. UGH! Lucky me - I'm escaping to Florida next week.
It is decent here this morning. No sun but no rain either. It is supposed to go below freezing tommorrow. I need to do some major yard cleanup but it is just too wet. (oh darn!).
It was the most glorious autumn, though. Our Thanksgiving was a week ago and it was 80 and sunny all week. We were boating and loving it.
I'll let you have your Canadian air back Barb! I am hoping for a bit warmer Halloween. . I don't think my kids are going out but we love to have the kids come by.
Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
10 years. Seems like a life time ago, doesn't it? I missed my ten year mark apparently. I registered my original name on 9.18.2000. Congrats on making it to the other side. It's wonderful over here, isn't it?
Of course we did the best we could where the children were/are concerned. We are only human though and do make mistakes. My daughter refused most contact with her father for the first couple of years and when she did see him she took her boyfriend with her. No one-on-one with him. He complained to me about it at the time and I suggested that he be thankful that she was seeing him at all.
My son was so young when his dad left. 11 going on 12 is a hard time for the male figure in a young mans life to suddenly be unavailable for significant periods of time. {Much like your X mine left and then came home for about 7 weeks. He then stayed for a year and a half and then finally left for good} The boy has had a hot/cold relationship with his father ever since and still does to this day.
My children are successful happy adults but absolutely have the scars that divorce left them with. My girl is married 4 years this Thursday to a fantastic young man. After graduating from Cal Poly SLO they moved to the LA area where they both have successful careers in the Disney Family. He works as a mechanical engineer and she works as a Technical writer. {I know you love Disney - We do too!}
My son is two weeks away from graduating from Paramedic School. He turned 21 this past July. His father phoned the day before his birthday to wish him a happy birthday. The man truly thought it was the young mans birthday that day. Lovely, yes? Any wonder that when assembling a set of photos for the graduation video that the only family photo included is one taken at Disneyland in a teacup {myself and my fiancé, my daughter and her husband and my son} and not a single photo of his father or his fathers new family.? {yes, he moved on quickly and has 3 year old twin boys} The missing family photo will leave a mark on the X. Throughout the past 11 years the X has often turned to me to help him with problems he was having with the children. I stuck to my statement that I could not fix what I did not break and that he would have to figure it out. To this day I don't believe he has.
As for me - I am engaged to a wonderful man. We are getting married after the first of next year and my son and I are moving to Alaska to start our new life with him. We are very excited to take this step. I did my job. I made sure I was there while my kids were finishing their growing up. I sacrificed my own wants to give them the best I could. It's my turn now and I could not be happier with the way things have turned out for us all. Life is very good 11 years later.
All we can do is be the best parent we can when faced with such a devastating time in our children's lives. Love them and comfort them. Encourage their dreams. Soothe their hurts. Be their rock. They won't forget it. Not ever.
Best Wishes to your daughter, Barb, on her Graduation. Congrats again to you for coming out on the other side a happy fulfilled woman. We rock, don't we?
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
