You all are an incredible gift to me. Thank you. I wish I could meet everyone in person to give back some of the love and caring I've received.
Had practice with the Travellers tonight...good for the soul and spirit. Fortunately we're booked nearly every weekend until mid-November so I will not have much down time to start thinking about things. We will be recording a new CD over the winter so at least my mind and fingers will be occupied.
I received a letter from my son (S21) today. He's doing very well in basic and it's already half over. He also told me that my W's sons' stepmother (wife of her XH #1) sent him a letter! I was floored. I called her and thanked her for her kindness and consideration; she told me that SS22 misses me and wants to see me, so we're going to work out something so I can visit him at their house. I remarked that my W would probably be furious and she replied, "Good. I hope she finds out and says something to me. I'll put her in her place."
Trying to get my mind off of everything that has happened, but it's not easy. It is hard to believe what my W has turned into. I feel like the last 11 years were a total waste and I was a blind fool to believe her lies. My mood flips from sadness to rejection to anger to relief. I find myself wondering if I can ever trust someone again to let them into my life. But then I try to remind myself that everything is God's plan, and He must have something cooking for me. Just wish He'd let me have a peek at the recipe...
Tomorrow we will try to finalize a time to meet with the mediator. I will remind her she has a lot of her things still here and I'd like to see them gone.
The beginning of the end, I suppose.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
I received a letter from my son (S21) today. He's doing very well in basic and it's already half over. He also told me that my W's sons' stepmother (wife of her XH #1) sent him a letter! I was floored. I called her and thanked her for her kindness and consideration; she told me that SS22 misses me and wants to see me, so we're going to work out something so I can visit him at their house.
That is all very cool!
I feel for SS22... I can imagine what his life must be like right now... I can only hope that he has enough patience and communication skills to deal with all the turmoil in his life...
I can only imagine how long it might be before OM begins to struggle with any of SS22's outbursts... If he has no experience in that area, he's going to get a REAL awakening...
I don't know, KD...SS22 gets very upset whenever anyone he has come to know is taken out of his life. In the 11 yeas we've been together he has had 9 TSS (Therapeutic Staff Support) counselors, and each time one would leave him he was deeply affected. This time his stepsister, stepbrother and stepfather are all being surgically removed.
I can't be 100% certain, but I'm pretty sure OM doesn't have a clear picture of what could be coming down the pike. Unfortunately my W would rather suffer - and let her sons suffer - than admit she made a terrible mistake and try to make things right. That way she can still play her role as the downtrodden victim - "Look what my terrible husband drove me to do!"
She has already lost her oldest son because of this crap; how much more damage does she need to inflict before she sees what she has become?
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
How I'd love to give you a big Texan hug right now. You are such a blessing to so many people on this board, including me. You are a true gentleman, TM.
I'm so grateful that you are busy with Travellers right now...for your GAL as well as for your pocket book! It's awesome you have that positive outlet.
I'm also glad things continue to go well for your son. I know that must make you feel great to get positive letters from him. And let me say that I'm lovin' your STBXW's 1st H's 2nd W (that confusing enough? ). I'm glad she has your back on this one. Thank her for me. In all seriousness, I'm so glad you will get to see SS22, as I have no doubt he misses you as much as you miss him. Bless his heart; I sincerely hope you and your children can remain in his life.
It is my hope for the loved ones in your W's life that she wakes up SOON, as I hate how many people are getting hurt in this nightmare. Continue doing what you're doing, and you will have no regrets.
Sweetie, a big Texan hug would feel mighty fine right now! I'll hug myself and pretend it's you.
We (my kids & I, SS25, his father and stepmother) have promised each other we are not going to let my W ruin our relationship. Of course SS22 is right there with us..he just can't verbalize it.
I fear W will never wake up, or she will see what she's doing and just ignore it. Either way, she will repeat her cycle of tossing people aside for the rest of her life. It really is tragic, because the W I married was intelligent, talented, funny, deeply faithful to God, caring, sensitive and fun to be around. She was the "light up the room" type of person with her personality and her drop dead gorgeous looks. Somewhere in the last several years, that person disappeared.
Little by little, I am disengaging from the drama. It is a slow and sometimes painful process, but it is the only way I will come out of this with my self-esteem and self-respect intact.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Had practice with the Travellers tonight...good for the soul and spirit. Fortunately we're booked nearly every weekend until mid-November so I will not have much down time to start thinking about things. We will be recording a new CD over the winter so at least my mind and fingers will be occupied.
I received a letter from my son (S21) today. He's doing very well in basic and it's already half over. He also told me that my W's sons' stepmother (wife of her XH #1) sent him a letter! I was floored. I called her and thanked her for her kindness and consideration; she told me that SS22 misses me and wants to see me, so we're going to work out something so I can visit him at their house.
All very good stuff, Telemark!
Originally Posted By: Telemark
But then I try to remind myself that everything is God's plan, and He must have something cooking for me. Just wish He'd let me have a peek at the recipe...
Stay focused on this. It's hard to think of when you're in the middle of things. But when you take a step back, I think you realize this bigger plan makes all of your drama less important in the grand scheme of things.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
). I'm glad she has your back on this one. Thank her for me. 
In all seriousness, I'm so glad you will get to see SS22, as I have no doubt he misses you as much as you miss him. Bless his heart; I sincerely hope you and your children can remain in his life. 