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Uggggh... 3 interesting things happened this weekend. I didn't react, I don't think

1)H is out of town for 3 weeks, about 300 miles a way. Saturday around 6am I realize he is crawling into my bed. We spend all day yesterday and 1/2 day together before he drives back up for work

2)We were getting in the car this morning to get some breakfast. We were going back and forth and he slips, that he likes the "banter" we have always had. All I say is..."I like you." He responds, "I don't believe that for a second."
I say.."really?" He says, " I think you love me."

3)on the way to breakfast he was driving really fast in his rental car. I say, "Geeze, I guess you really do want that million dollar life policy on me." He says, "Katie, I would much rather have you in my my life, even at a distance, for a million dollars."

I say nothing and he says..."I just gave you a compliment"

It felt like a kick in the teeth. I hope I didn't just buy another ticket for the roller coaster ride. Seriously, what did he mean?

When he left, he came he a huge tight hug and said, love ya.

Was he telling me something I didn't hear? Did I respond poorly?

No, I don't think you responded poorly, and I can understand your apprehension about it.

I wish I had some awesome advice to give you, but I don't.
Like I said before...tread carefully.

Don't panic, VS... it sounds like you did very well...

But my personal opinion is... don't hit the accelerator... what you are doing appears to be working, so continue to allow him to chase you... don't run too fast... but don't start chasing him...

He's told you what he likes... so keep going with the banter... you might want to toss a valid compliment about him every once in a while... if there's anything you can think of... something new he's doing or some successes he's having in his life...

And a little flirtation now and then...

Just opinions... but keep your hope and expectations in check...

When is enough, enough? Or when does the R talk happen?

We have lived apart for 7 months. We talk daily and spend every weekend together. Yet, on Sunday nights. he packs up and returns to his rented room. When he leaves he grabs me close and tight. I always feel like he is waiting for me to say something?

We have great weekends usually. Last night we were at sushi and he was showing me a pic that had come through on his e-mail. I could careless about the pic, and zoomed in on his contact list, and there was OW. He knew I saw it. I went into silent decline. I even went to the bathroom to wipe the tears. He knew what had happened.

This morning and all day he was prince charming.

When does the R talk happen? We dance around it. I feel several things
1)I want him to want to move back home
2)not sure I want him to move back home
3)I feel like I am missing out on "something" while we do this dance.

Any suggestions?

anyone?

I liked your first post. Start living YOUR life.

I'm in So Cal too. Are you on FB? There are several DB people on there.

I'm just glad it's all over for me. I think your H is just showing classic signs of having his cake and eating it too.

Luv

I'm not sure it is "cake eating" because he is always here, unless he is working out of town. Maybe it is??? Who knows. If he is still with OW, when where how? He has become 80% transparent. He has "accidently left most of his clothes here." He text me all day long about nothing.

Today he text me and I ignored. 1 hour later I get "I said good morning" I just responded good morning.

Then he says he (doesn't say us) would like to return soon to our favorite vacation spot. I said...sounds fun. Normally, I would have said YES and bombared him with text and e-mails about it.
I don't know what is up with this guy. He suddenly has taken an interest in my daughter and her daughter.