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BTW, when does the football pool begin?

I'm gonna check ebay for a roomba... lol

I've been following your thread for a while Telemark but I haven't posted in a while on your thread.

I think you've been doing great considering the circumstances you've been facing.

You've maintained your position while still being loving. I think that is an excellent balance that many, especially myself, are not able to maintain as consistently as you have been able to.

I'll be praying for you. I hope this isn't a violation of any site rules but since you're a man of faith you may want to check out a site I found. Google "Rejoice Ministries." It's a ministry out of Florida that is dedicated solely to the restoration of marriages. They have many testimonies and praise reports of restored marriages under the worst circumstances. I'd recommend signing up for their free newsletter...it has plenty of inspirational scriptures that keep me going even when I feel like there's nothing but the finality of this thing left.

Keep pressing on man. You're a huge inspiration to me. Guys like you, jb, CS, west, etc....you all give me strength to want to become a better man because I see men getting better with each post.

Thanks, MTS. I appreciate your post and your words. Believe me, I've made a lot of mistakes along the way, and sometimes I think they were instrumental in driving my W out of the home. But I've come to realize that she had her own agenda planned long ago, and nothing I did, or could do, changed that.

Thanks also for the site recommendation. I will look at it this morning.

I will hop over and read your story, too.

Stay the course.

MTS, I have read your story; didn't realize you've changed your screen name.

Another overcast Sunday morning...fortunately my spirits are much better than last weekend. Friday night I attended First Friday in Lancaster with Darling Daughter; she is so good for my heart and spirit. We met some of her friends and visited several very Bohemian-looking art studios; great lofts and open spaces which I never knew even existed in Lancaster. It was interesting talking to people half my age about their creativity and approach to their craft.

Yesterday a group of us went to the McLain Scottish Highland Festival in Carlisle. One of our good friends was playing there; he is from NY so whenever he is within reasonable driving distance we try to see him. We discussed organizing a benefit concert for the town of Windham, NY which was hammered by Hurricane Irene. This is where we all attend the Annual Civil War Music Festival.

Also watched a Border Collie demonstration; it is remarkable how these small dogs can instinctively herd a dozen or more sheep to exactly where they want them.

Today the Travellers are playing in Harrisburg for the Dauphin County Historical Society. Hope the rain holds off.

Thoughts of W would come and go, but I realized she would have no interest in any of what I had done or attended. I did text back and forth a few times to the woman I had dinner with on Thursday. Her 2 grown sons are home for a visit this weekend so I gave her plenty of space. Not ready to dive into anything, especially since I am still technically "married".

And - have not heard a peep from W after her e-mail announcement about filing for a D.

TM, my W has hijacked my D. I don't get to spend anytime with her and it really hurts. She is teenager but just doesn't want to do anything with me. Got a letter from her L about the D yesterday and became aware that W had told D about it. Been reading your stich and hopefully I can be as strong as you are. This all really svcks and it is very confusing and painful. i'm glad you had a great time keep it up.

Telemark, sounds like you're having a good weekend and have a lot of good things stacked up. Glad to hear you about you hanging out with your daughter earlier this weekend.


I can tell you one thing. I like your world right now a lot better than hers. And I really like the direction you're heading a ton more than hers.

Thanks, jb. I like my world a whole lot better, too. It was always hurtful, though, that she showed no interest in anything I did. Never went to one performance or concert; never listened to any of the 4 CDs we made; never showed any interest in the building & architectural projects I worked on. But boy, was I expected to attend every function, every reception, every project she was involved in. And I did it; not grudgingly but admiringly, and I encouraged her and praised her every chance I could get.

I guess it still wasn't enough. Oh, well...

Telemark, I really feel for you on this issue. To create something so personal like art and have your own partner not show an interest is so hurtful. I hope if things don't work out with your W, that you find a woman who truly appreciates your music because something you create should be cherished by those who love you. I get this more than you know.

Thanks, E. That really touched me.