Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers I'm Still Here Pt Deux

I don't think he chooses to follow along, but there isn't much I can do about it.

Yes, you are doing more than just moving on. Your life is moving in a positive direction. Keep moving in that direction. It's up to your H whether he wants to get with the program. Is your H moving in a positive direction right now? I'd say not so much. He appears to be stuck.

DG,

I just read a lot of your posts (not all, but a lot) and I wanted to extend my support. I
n reading where you were when you first started posting and now, I think you have made a lot of progress in working on GAL. I am glad to hear that you have had a great summer and are focusing on moving on.

As you said in your post to my thread, we have a lot of things in common re. the problems in our marriage and what got us here, and I am glad to find someone who I can relate to. I feel my sit is bleak compared to yours. My H is firm on his desire to move on w/o me and that he doesn't love me. I feel that at least yours may be stuck, but has not shut the door on you.

As everyone says here, patience is the strongest virtue. The one thing I try to remind myself is that this is a marathon, not a sprint. And in my case, I know that I'll need a miracle to save my M and if it happens it will take YEARS...

I hope it's not the same for you. Hang in there and keep focusing on your life!

JB he is very stuck.

Today I was very, very tempted to ask him to attend my C appt tomorrow, but in the end I didn't. It would go against my goal of not contacting him for any reason, and chances are he'd ignore my request anyway.

Took S10 to his Kyuki-do class tonight. He is currently a green belt and is hoping to go up a rank soon. He's never been interested in something for so long and he just loves it. Tonight he was sparring and wanted me to watch. I don't care if he's wearing gear, it's still hard for me to watch him and someone else try to kick each other's butts.

I was hoping to go to the zoo this weekend. He's been on a dolphin kick, even bought himself season 1 of Flipper, LOL. He's convinced he is going to move near an ocean and have a dolphin.
I didn't realize I'd have to take out a small loan in order to go, so I think we are going to scratch that.

All in all, today has been a very good day.
I'm glad the good days outweigh the bad ones lately.

I put some pics up on FB of the wedding on sat and have received a lot of nice compliments.

Sorry, DG. Poor choice of words on my part. Yes, that is what you are doing. You are GAL'ing up a storm.

I meant detaching, or not showing him that he can affect you quite so much. I simply meant reacting to his (odd) texts with less hurt. Hopefully, that makes more sense...or not.

And I'm sure you looked beautiful at your friend's wedding.

Journaling---

Another good day. Feels good to say that!
I had my appt with my C today, I've started going every other week instead of weekly. We talked a lot about the progress I've made in these 8.5 months that I've been seeing her.
She asked me what change I have noticed the most in myself and without a doubt it is the anger.
I had a pit of anger I used to carry around with me and it dragged me down, and I am so glad I'm not angry anymore.

I admit that I am nervous about my future.
I feel confident now that I will be able to handle things different in relationships in the future, but it's easy for me to say this because I'm alone.

The best way to describe what I mean is let's say I am a drug addict who goes to in patient treatment for 90 days. While I'm there I learn a lot about learning how to cope with things other than using, but the true test is how I will cope in the real world. When I don't have my therapist holding my hand. It will be interesting. At least I feel confident about it.

Slept pretty good last night.
Fall is in the air, hard to believe summer is over.
It went by way too fast.

Ugh...can't sleep....why am I talking to myself??

You're not. I just haven't bothered to go to bed yet. Trying to do too much.

Right, you aren't talking to yourself, it's just a five hour delay. Or time zone. Or something. Wait, it's early, what was that again?

Have a GREAT day today DG!