H also said in text that not having money was killing him. he has been in that place so many times you would think he would learn to stop spending. this shows what an addiction he has to spending. some of his mail still comes here and people that did work for him are threatening to sue him for not paying. his spending is out of control. It was like living with an addict, i cant do it anymore. i am really sereous about filing i have to get some things in order first though $ and tex stuff L told me last time i went. i have to take responsibility for my life.
yes you do have to take responsibility for your life, and for now, your son's too.
That's the healthiest thing you have ever posted here.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
If your H is in a place where he is not paying employees, he is in serious financial trouble. Make sure you protect yourself. Make sure he doesn't take you down with him. Was he always a spender like that or did it start in the past four or five years? Like you said, you get things in order first, think clearly, and get advice form experts who can tell you the right thing to do.
Yeah, I don't blame you on the mechanical stuff, if you aren't sure, let a mechanic do it. We had one tell us we needed a new compressor, for 1200 dollars, but we knew it wasn't bad, just a small part on it, so when they refused to fix it unless we let them do it their way, we got the part, and the whole job was about 225 dollars. Works perfectly now. I want to go say HA!! to them. We went to a place to get parts off old used cars, you walk the lot and take them off and stand in line forever to pay for them. Did you ever see or talk to MIL since she got sick? You know, she would probably like to hear from you. Maybe a card or a call.
h always had a addiction to spending every penny that he made. growing up his father saved every dollar that he earned and was very frugal and h resented that his father was like that so now he spends everything. he is never satisfied with what he had he always needed more. he had to impress people by having the nicest car, and all other big ticket items. i was totally the opposite i am frugal and know that the best things in life are free, that you cant buy happiness. our family was the most precious gift i could have had money could not buy that, but he felt money was more valuable and it made me sad he was like that.
Can I ask why you seldom address people's questions to you? What are you afraid of?
The people on these boards can be a major help to you, you just have to let them in.
You said you are responsible for protecting yourself and your son...and you KNOW your h is bad with money...
Sooo, back to YOU...
what's the plan? Are you making one? Planning on making one? I'm not being sarcastic. Just trying to keep you on track to PROTECT YOURSELF--
In the face of so many RED FLAGS and ALARMS going off...
you can do this Rys, you can protect yourself.
You are not helpless.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
i dont know what L i should use. there is a really good one that was recommended but they are very expensive. im going to need a forensic acct too, to go over his business account and thats very expensive. there is a lady in my town that i really liked but she wont take my case because i dropped d last time and she knows im a nervous person. im afraid of making wrong choice for L.
dont you think it would be unbelievably cruel to file for d when h mother is on her death bed. his mother meant everything to him. he loved her more that me i always felt.
