DG, it's all good. None of those things depend on him. Keep going in that direction. Your H is going to be left behind and will have a heckuva time to run to get even - provided he's willing to take any steps to work on himself.
I was up pretty late thinking about things and writing in my journal, and I have made some decisions about things. They are as follows:
- I will no longer contact him for any reason. - I will keep him on my health insurance for the remainder of 2011, but will make sure he is removed for 2012 - I will return his mail to the post office as 'no longer at this address' - I will continue to go to therapy and work on myself - I will try my damnedest to be happy
Good Girl. I've just started doing the no longer at this address try (because I know his address) this week. I also took him off my health insurance a few months ago.
I am doing my damnnesdest to be happy too - and it's working - positive thinking.
H 34, W 36 T 13.5 M 8.5 C 6yo twins S 6/5/11 OW 7/6/11 OW moves in 9/18/11
Those are important but painful steps. Ex-P didn't have his mail forwarded until days before the OW was to move in...and because I requested it. It hasn't stopped the junk mail from piling up with his name on it though.
I put off checking the mail because it hurts so bad.
DG, you are so strong, SO STRONG. Someday I want to be where you are.
Bless you DG, keep on keeping on.
Me: 35 Him: 43 Together: 19 1/2 years 1st Bomb (IDLYAM): March 2011 2nd Bomb (OW): April 2011 He abandons home/bills/everything: May 2011 He's bought a new house for OW: September 2011
Lots of things make me happy. -laughing so hard that I cry -hugs from my boys -Spending time with my friends -my favorite song up as loud as it can be while driving -watching something good on tv -reading a good book -a clean house -watching my cats play -my cute haircut -Dr. Phil re runs on OWN
I could go on and on...isn't that great?
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DG, you are so strong, SO STRONG. Someday I want to be where you are.
Wow...you really think so? Thank you! It surprises me that it appears that way to others because I don't feel very strong. Sometimes I feel like I am in a downward spiral, but other times it isn't so bad.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
I had dinner with my sister tonight. We met at a place that had outdoor seating, since it is so beautiful out. I need to take advantage of the weather every minute I can, winter will be here before I know it.
Surprisingly, we didn't discuss my H much at all. I've pretty much told people I no longer wish to talk about him and everyone has been respectful. They are probably grateful to not have to hear about it anymore.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
Surprisingly, we didn't discuss my H much at all. I've pretty much told people I no longer wish to talk about him and everyone has been respectful. They are probably grateful to not have to hear about it anymore.
I'm totally on this wavelength... I'm not discussing H or my situation with people at all right now. They're picking up on it and being respectful.
I figure I have a lot more going on in my life other than the impending ending of my marriage.
Totally off topic, but I am loving Adele's new single "someone like you". The first time I heard it played it stopped me in my tracks. That woman has an amazing voice. Despite the sadness, it is a beautiful song.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
DG, it's all good. None of those things depend on him. Keep going in that direction. Your H is going to be left behind and will have a heckuva time to run to get even - provided he's willing to take any steps to work on himself.