The email she sent you just burns me up! Grrr...HOW RUDE!!!! Amazing how our WAS think we can just "feel better" overnight. Good for you for not answering at all.
I agree. It's like false compassion, or that she doesn't want you to be angry with her. I wouldn't have responded, either.
W just informed me - by e-mail - that she is filing for D this week.
Hang in there Telemark.
If you've followed my thread, you know I've been through the day the process server showed at my office.
As long as you are expecting it, you can handle it. I won't say it's painless, but it won't kill you. Actually it puts to bed the dread we all feel about the impending doom.
Be strong. You know what you have to do. Live the best you can.
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Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
TM, I thought about you and this last night. Actions speak louder than words. We will not know until the action is taken until then we can only anticipate and prepare.
Drawing on an analogy it is as if we are setting up a defensive position. We anticipate their actions, avenues of approach and prepare for them. We remain flexible and hold assets in reserve to respond to things we have not anticipated. If they feint, probe and demonstrate it is to pull us out of our strong position and onto open ground where we are more vulnerable. Until they commit it is just words.
Allowing words to drain us makes us vulnerable. We need to stay the course we have prepared for, to fight our battle on terrain of our choosing.
If neither crosses no mans land the stalemate continues until one side chooses to act. Intelligence must be gathered, actions should be carefully considered and implemented calmly and confidently whatever they are.
IMO her email was in response to your boundary. She is probing for a reaction, testing, and trying to draw you out.
You are in a strong position; hers will reveal itself in time. I can only imagine the chaotic untenable dynamics there.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
I agree somewhat with JS, but I also wouldn't waste too much time thinking and worrying about it (easier said than done!)
My therapist has been telling me all summer to try not to anticipate things too much, as most of the time things you imagine don't come true or don't work out the way you there thinking. And on the outside chance they do, then you will have had to deal with it twice - once in your mind, and then again when it actually happens.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
