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I remember one day my XW called me at work and demanded that I stay home the next day with D9, who was sick.

I wasn't in a good place then still I was happy with what I said.

I told her she "couldn't demand that I do something." She could ask. She hung up.

It could be a simple boundaries statement. When we talk I will not be yelled at, swore at ....

It's a tough spot. I'm glad I didn't really face that.

Well court is over. I am officially divorced. During pretrial my EX WIFE..commented on my shoes that they looked expensive. He only buys "allen edmonds" she says. I just looked at and said, really? They are 6 years old...

Oh and i also had to give up the leaf blower because she demanded that too. I did sleep last night(usually my insomnia is in full force before a court date) , but I am just tired, relived. Looking forward to my new life...

figgeroni, sorry to hear that the boys dad is such a mess.

She can no longer hurt me, threaten me, control me...I am free today...

I'm no engine expert, but isn't there something that you could put in it to cause it seize up?

Just a -- mean -- thought.

When it was over for me people would say congratulations and I didn't know how to take it. Divorce is sad. It's a death of what could have been.

That being said, it sounds like yours was such a mess that congratulations may work here.

So congratulations.

not a bad thought...

The funny part is even when she had no money, she borrowed $20,000 from daddy to but a new toyota 4runner. Used? not for my ex...

I don't disagree it is sad. But I have to tell you, I just feel the fear lifting a way a bit today...

Divorce was bittersweet for me...

I was certainly glad when it happened but I wished it had never gotten to that point

Ditto. I still feel that somewhere along the way it definitely could have been fixed.....but cest la vie. It is hard to fix a marriage when your partner believes all the problem lie in you.

I am happy now. Happier than I had been for so many years.

I lived with fear as well. My ex first mentioned divorce 3-4 years into our marriage. We stayed married for another 16 years, and I had the constant fear that he would divorce me. I lived with that insecurity and fear for 16 years. I became a shell of a person who at one point was having anxiety attacks because I was afraid I would do something wrong, and consequently I never seemed to do anything right...and was constantly told that I never did anything right. Who knew that him leaving would be such a positive in my life. I completely lost who I was when I was married, and divorce brough me back! And I speak my mind now and could not care less what he thinks! It is definitely liberating!

Yep, I may be a bitch, but I'm the bitch you created!!!