Received a TM from W this morning. She wants to meet me for breakfast Sunday morning.
I asked if everything was OK.
She replied that she just wanted to talk.
I said of course.
So we're having breakfast together Sunday morning at 9:00. This will be the first meal we have had together in a public place since February.
Seems like I keep seeing this kind of thing over and over on this MB, albeit in different flavors. The LBS starts to rock the boat and give the WAS what they want, and progress in SOME direction starts to happen.
Originally Posted By: Telemark
I just don't know what to expect. Maybe she's going to tell me her 2 batchit crazy sisters and their dysfunctional families are also moving in with her, and her condo will be like one of those clown cars that holds umpteen people...
Honestly, jb, I'm at a loss. I feel like I've spent the last 6 months jumping through every hoop she has set up and still she hit the bricks.
So I feel good about myself, I make the decision to move on only when I see the OM is taking my place, I am at peace about it and she pulls this.
Right now, I am not wavering off course. There would have to be a complete W transplant for me to even consider reconciling, because in 6 months it could be the same scene all over again. Look at how many are here in this forum who had spouses walk away, come back, walk away, come back...who needs that?
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Stay the course, Telemark. Just see where it goes and don't worry about it.
Originally Posted By: Telemark
There would have to be a complete W transplant for me to even consider reconciling, because in 6 months it could be the same scene all over again. Look at how many are here in this forum who had spouses walk away, come back, walk away, come back...who needs that?
Yep, absolutely!! And that would take some time. I kind of think of it as turning a big huge ship around. The only thing that's happened now is that the captain is contemplating making a turn.
I do not know where I read this recently or who posted it. I do remember thinking absolutely right, and not just here. Very often people do not value what is given to them freely. They value what they have had to work for
Everyone on this board has value. Everyone on this board is worth working for. If she experiences her transplant if you decide to reconsider, if you decide to sell yourself back to her, then value yourself accordingly.
I used to tell a date, I can be had, but I ain’t cheap
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
I'm shaking my head trying to picture them all living in a 3 bedroom condo. I don't understand what goes through some of these WAS's minds. During the time, I was feeling very unhappy in my M and seriously considering leaving, I imagined all future scenarios. Living in a condo with an OM and his mother certainly would not top of my list on how to find happiness. I really don't understand how she justifies this craziness? Maybe that's the point though, the WAS don't really "think" things through which explains some of the nutty stories we read on these forums.
Anyway, Telemark, I'm really sorry you're going through this drama. I hope the breakfast meeting goes well and that she doesn't try to pull you any further into this mess. Although, I believe you obviously have the strength and common sense not to let that happen.
Wow TM, I am sorry to read about your sitch. There seems to be similarities with all of our stories.
The breakfast could be interesting. Try not to have any expectations, because frankly it sounds like anything could happen.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
I don't understand what goes through some of these WAS's minds. During the time, I was feeling very unhappy in my M and seriously considering leaving, I imagined all future scenarios. Living in a condo with an OM and his mother certainly would not top of my list on how to find happiness. I really don't understand how she justifies this craziness? Maybe that's the point though, the WAS don't really "think" things through which explains some of the nutty stories we read on these forums.