(((((Julia))))) It's such a tough call. In a way, one could say it isn't you business, but it certainly is. But even that doesn't make it clear what you should do.
It could be that your mom knows, and is choosing to follow this path, and that you saying something might upset the balance that exists. Is that a good thing, or a bad thing? I don't know! If he is as easy to see through as what you've seen, I would really suspect that she knows, but then again..... You were "out of the loop" for a while, I think it is possible that they came to an understanding, spoken or unspoken, and you saying something might throw it off.
I think I fall on the side of thinking that it is between them, though I think I might tell him what you know/suspect, and encourage him to "do the right thing", whatever that is. I'm not sure you should tell her. But then again, I'm not sure you shouldn't!
I will send hugs...((((((Julia))))) - no idea what to do past that.
My sister suspected my father of the same thing, but I really have no idea. She never said anything to me about it until my father had passed away, and it was something I never spoke to my mother about.
JCJ: Just reading this for the first time. UGH - I know how much it affects you when you've been cheated on. I freaked when I found out my next door neighbour (who was so helpful when Chuck cheated on me and left) was cheating on his lovely wife. I was horrified and wanted to bash him - he had seen how hard it was on me!
I think KML has the right idea. I DO think you need to let him know you know. Make him stop acting like the cat who swallowed the canary. These guys always think they're getting away with something. I know my son suspected something shortly before H was found out and it was very hard on him.
Hugs. I really feel for you. It is a lose/lose situation. But only you know what you need to do for yourself.
Julia, I'm so sorry I didn't see this until just now. Other than huge hugs and support for whatever you decide, I have no advice for you. You know your parents best and you will decide what you can live with.
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So my dear have things cleared up? I have been thinking about you and your family and hoping that things have been resolved in some way. Big hugs Julia. I am hoping for the best.
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No, they haven't really. I spoke to my brother and sister about it and they both don't want me to say anything. I'm not sure but I think my brother might be planning to have a word with my dad.
My dad went out again on Friday, it made me feel sick. Also, because I had just started to forgive him and made the effort to invite him out to go on a walk which he loves to do. He turned round and made cr@ap excuses as to why he couldn't go and I was very angry.
However, the good thing is that I have made the effort to spend some quality time with my mum and that is really nice.
I have my trip planned to. I leave on the 24th October and fly to Singapore for 2 nights then on to Australia to see my friends then a holiday with Joe and then out to New Zealand where I'll get a job and my friend Laura is out there. Such exciting times to come.
