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Calm down Cam.

Take a deep breath and think before you do anything - destroying things is not going to help - it will only make matters worse and you will feel very guilty afterwards.

I've made rash decisions in the past and regretted them 10 mins later - I've accepted that my wife doesn't love me, but if I keep changing maybe she will want to join me on the same path instead of following her own.

I would seriously consider IC if you aren't already - you need to reign in any impulsive decisions.

I feel for you man, I really do - but take actions that you will be proud of not regret later.

Anger is part of the process.

Use it as a shield...

not as a sword.

Hurt people, hurt people.

Do you want to be one of those guys Cam?

I am trying to save you from the mistakes I made myself.

If you let yourself be the victim of this

Your life will be a string of reactions to things people do to you.

And you will be stuck there for a long time.

Think about that.

If you let this anger control you ...you will be controled by it always.

Why not try to conquer it? See what strength you have inside you.

Listen to them.
You are hurting, angry, and upset.
Do not react based on those emotions.
You will say/do something you'll regret. Guaranteed.

Remember, keep the road home paved and smooth.

Thanks for the support guys. I managed to curb my anger for the day and didn't do anything rash. It's just extremely difficult to comprehend that this is happening and that someone who I spent nearly every waking moment with, apart from work time, together and now to have no contact whatsoever. I struggle to understand how she can't miss me and us at all, when I miss her company, friendship and presence so much.

Trying to GAL.....today I booked a surf trip to the Maldives for October, so looking forward to that.....although no doubt it will remind me of time away in tropical islands with my W and wish she was with me. And also planning on joining a golf club as well now.

Well done Cam - good job.

Sounds like the Maldives will be fun and something to look forward to. Re: golf - that's my escape too. A few hours on the course can relieve many stresses - fortunately I don't take my game too seriously.

Two weeks today and absolutely no contact with my W. I always wonder if she is thinking about me or missing me. I have my last session with my DB coach this morning. Not sure how effective his recommendations can be as I can't contact my W as every time we speak it just goes bad and I get so frustrated at what she's doing and tell her how much I miss her.

So stop touching the hot stove.

But I miss my hot stove!

Then prepare to keep getting burned.

IOW, you can receive the best of the best advice and it won't be effective b/c you don't follow it.

As a former WAW, I can assure you that what you are telling her is not attractive! Do you get that?