Okay, Telemark....did I not tell you she would notice on FB that you weren't friends anymore? Just because she wasn't in contact with you doesn't mean she hasn't been trying to keep up with you! She wonders what you are up to and why you haven't been begging her to come back.
How are you responding to her questions, giving her lots of information, just a bit to keep her interested? Did the two of you arrange a time for her to come by? I'm interested to hear how that goes. I know you will be DB'ing like a pro!!!
You are a good man and a great daddy to help your daughter out when she needs it. Isn't it wonderful that she knows she can call on you when she needs help? With regard to returning the items you bought....I was kind of wondering if you had moved too quickly in trying to re-furnish the house. I know the emptiness is awful, but it's still early. I don't know, just a thought I've been having.
"Okay, Telemark....did I not tell you she would notice on FB that you weren't friends anymore? Just because she wasn't in contact with you doesn't mean she hasn't been trying to keep up with you! She wonders what you are up to and why you haven't been begging her to come back."
You nailed it. How are you at picking lottery numbers?
"How are you responding to her questions, giving her lots of information, just a bit to keep her interested? Did the two of you arrange a time for her to come by? I'm interested to hear how that goes. I know you will be DB'ing like a pro!!!"
Tiny answers - polite but not chatty. She may come by while I am at my gigs, although I told her that was not necessary.
"You are a good man and a great daddy to help your daughter out when she needs it. Isn't it wonderful that she knows she can call on you when she needs help? With regard to returning the items you bought....I was kind of wondering if you had moved too quickly in trying to re-furnish the house. I know the emptiness is awful, but it's still early. I don't know, just a thought I've been having."
She and I have always been there for each other. She is so close to graduating after 10 years of struggling, I want to do all I can for her.
In hindsight, I did go a little crazy this past weekend. Fortunately nothing was unpacked so it will be an easy return. And I really should buy something to sit on first, despite what KaffeDiem Says...
You're a doll, lc4. Thanks.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
You're right about FB and lc4 was right that she noticed.
My w nor I have deleted each other from FB. Considering that don't really speak any more, I don't know why either of us haven't. I assume it's laziness of her part.
Keep up the good work.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
I get that. Trust me I am tempted to look (I blocked her feed). I just tell myself. "If she is doing fun things and I can't be happy for her.. than I shouldn't look". My end it's keeping the door open. I don't know if that's healthy for me.. but I'm sure God will give me the strength when necessary to do what is necessary.
You're a strong man for doing what you did. It was a very loving move for yourself.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
Oh, I'm sure she noticed you de-friended her on FB. FB often times is bad news. You did it for the right reasons. You removed the temptation to see what was going with her. Besides, it creates a little mystery, too, because she can't look at what you're up to.
I just don't get on to FB anymore. If I do, it's just for a few minutes. I purposely don't look at anything of my W's right now on FB.
I have been thinking about deleting my H from facebook as well. He never posts on it anymore but I do think he goes on. I tried to unmarry myself from him but it said it had to ask him. Stupid facebook. that is how my H got hooked up with his old friend he just texts too. whatever....
