thatgirl007, I'm riding that same bus. I just call it the crazy train. I wish I had some advice for you but since I'm still spinning myself, I have no idea to what to say...
Although, sometimes I think our S's are confused because we allow them to be. When the choice is no longer their choice to make, I have to wonder if they will quickly find clarity. The old saying about how some people do not realize what they have until it's gone seems to apply.
Just know that I'm thinking about you and wishing you the best.
Although, sometimes I think our S's are confused because we allow them to be. When the choice is no longer their choice to make, I have to wonder if they will quickly find clarity. The old saying about how some people do not realize what they have until it's gone seems to apply.
The saddest part about this is that's when it's too late. I don't think H realizes what he's doing to my feelings for him and what the true consequences will be. He's always had me in his corner and I'm telling you, I'm the kind of girl you want in your corner
Sigh. I'm just really, really tired of all of this.
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
"I have never told you to put your life on hold for me. Just be considerate of the fact that I'm not over you, never have been and probably never will be.
All the feeling you get when you see me, I get them, too. You own a part of me and that's not gonna change.
Bottom line is, even though I left you, I have not let you go. You in my life means everything to me. No future relationship will ever amount to what you mean to me."
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
"I asked is this before, after or during your time with OW?"
Nice shot across the bow.
IMHO:
TG, you and a few others here have suffered this nonsense long enough. I believe in standing for your marriage, but that does not mean standing while getting slapped in the face over and over. Maybe if H is slapped in his face with D documents he will man up and do the right thing.
The question is: after all of the hell you've been through, will you take him back?
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
"I have never told you to put your life on hold for me. Just be considerate of the fact that I'm not over you, never have been and probably never will be.
All the feeling you get when you see me, I get them, too. You own a part of me and that's not gonna change.
Bottom line is, even though I left you, I have not let you go. You in my life means everything to me. No future relationship will ever amount to what you mean to me."
TG - I admit that I haven't followed your thread very closely recently... your's or anyone else's for that matter. I just haven't had the emotional energy ... nor do I trust any advice that I may give anyhow... lol
BUT... I just want to say this...
I think that whatever you are doing DB wise is working to some degree.
I think that your H's recent contacts with you should be noted as positive signs.
So... keep doing what is working!!
Take care TG.
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Telemark does bring up a valid point. How long are we willing to stand up & get slapped in the face repeatedly? That is a question that I don't have the answer to. I guess I am hoping I'll know when I know, and I think you will also.
I thing going dark or dim would be the next step for you.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
Denver - I feel like if he completely disengaged, avoided me and was cold-hearted, this would be a much easier process. That guy I could hate and assign all sorts of badness to. That guy wouldn't get all teary and inarticulate and wring my heartstrings.
MrB + DG - dim or dark is where I am, not even to DB so much as to just stay on this side of sanity.
I did not respond to the text. Not that I won't be talking to him sooner some point in the near future. We work together.
And the show goes on...
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
Denver - I feel like if he completely disengaged, avoided me and was cold-hearted, this would be a much easier process. That guy I could hate and assign all sorts of badness to. That guy wouldn't get all teary and inarticulate and wring my heartstrings.
I completely understand TG. Completely.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I wish I had some advice for you but since I'm still spinning myself, I have no idea to what to say...