The fact that she's keeping you posted along her route shows that she still cares about you at some level.
Keep your chin up! We'll all get through our sitches together.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
Working hard at transitioning to a new life. W has her new place far, far away - she kept me posted along the way, but I have not heard from her in a couple of days. I will not contact her - communication is up to her.
In the mode of replacing furniture and reorganizing the house. Trying to move from despair into reality. Steadily increasing the GAL - took another 20 mile bike ride yesterday, will do the same tomorrow. Today is furniture shopping.
Need to focus on my life, personal and professional. I am going to be in limbo for a while, to be sure, but I need to move forward and feel better.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
The fact that she's keeping you posted along her route shows that she still cares about you at some level.
I would agree with this.
Originally Posted By: any chance?
Steadily increasing the GAL - took another 20 mile bike ride yesterday, will do the same tomorrow. Today is furniture shopping.
AC, a couple of good moves. Good job on the bike riding!! As much as it pains you to spend the money, you almost have to suck it up and fill the empty rooms. You have to do this for yourself. Try to have fun going out there buying furniture!
Only been 6 days since W left. Had enough of the self medication at this point. Been trying to GAL and develop PMA. Not easy to do. Can't seem to focus, or to concentrate on any task in particular. Very listless. Don't really want to see anyone. Feel like hibernating. Not even motivated to see my IC.
Need to snap out of it. This cannot continue.
H 51, W 46 no kids T 22 years M 17 years ILBNILWY 2/10 1st D talk 6/10 partial recovery W files D 5/11 long distance separation 8/11 moving forward on D 10/11 legal separation complete 1/2012
It's not easy, and the things you are feeling are perfectly natural. Don't try to fight it, but don't let yourself wallow unnecessarily. When you start to regain your strength, that's when you'll have to (and be able to) put in the effort for the PMA. It'll still be hard, but you'll know within yourself that you can do it. Just do your best until then!
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
AC, you and the rest of our little tribe here...parallel universes...I'm aching for you, my friend. As I've said to you, the extreme distance your W is putting between her and you is hard for me to wrap my head around, so I'm not going to say "I know how you feel". Because I don't.
I can say that being in the house as a single person will get easier. You'll have crappy days, like I did today, but it will pass. Making the place your own will help. Thinking about how you will live in it, how you will have friends over for parties and watching sports and backyard cookouts and, if the pendulum swings that way, having someone new in your life to keep you company will help.
"Just keep swimming." Those of you with younger kids will get that one immediately.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
AC, start thinking of new ways to GAL. I think once you really start brainstorming, you will think of more and more ideas. I'll build on itself. The more you GAL, the more your PMA will pick up. Focus on those things that will lead to you becoming the best possible AC you can be.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
