Hi Peter, I just read through your situation, and feel for you. One thing is at least youre still living with your wife and in contact......it should make it more of a chance to fix your marriage. My w does not want to talk to me or see me....and just blocks everything out. She too went to MC and I now think it was just an excuse to say she tried...it's BS...she had made her mind up long before that and was just dragging it out and leading me on. Thanks for your concern, I am worried about myself too, as nothing I do makes me feel any better. The longer this goes on the worse I feel and the lonelier and more I miss my w and our life together. It takes every inch if my being to not call her and beg her to reconsider.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011
cam, no matter what you do, don't call and beg. I slipped, after promissing myself not to do it and tried to reason, but it didn't produce a da.n thing for me. In fact, I know it made things worse. I know better now.
I did it out of guilt, just like you are feeling now. It has been 3 months since my w left and so far nothing good.
Stay strong. We are all in the same shape. Focus on yourself as much as you can, especially on forgiveness for yourself. I'm 100% sure you were not as bad as you say you were, it's just really hard to see right now.
It takes 2 people to make a great or a bad relationship and your part is only half and no more. She has to take a responsibility for her actions as well.
