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im serious he offered me a used rolls of course not new. i dont know what to think of this. before he said this i text him and said i wanted to divide our assets because i have to take care of our son, myself and our dogs. maybe he just said this so i dont file i dont do this. idont know what to think.
i just went for a long bike ride to try to clear my head from this crazy roller coaster.

I agree - I think he thought a used Rolls was cheaper than paying you what he will have to pay you if you divorce. Seriously, if you haven't done it already, you need to see an attorney and find out where you stand financially, and make sure he isn't squandering joint assets.

Also, ask him for a new Toyota instead of a used Rolls

i am also wondering if son mentioned i went to dinner with someone and h is jealous.i told son not to tell him, but he works with him everyday who know. i know h use to be super jealous of other men.

Is there any reason why you mentioned it to your son? Since you only met the guy once, you shouldn't have told him. I could be wrong, but it sounds like you used the guy to try and get your H jealous.

Not healthy.

No i didnt use the guy to make h jealous. why do you always think the worst of me. I told son where i was going because i dont lie and wanted him to know where i was.

It just seems needless to tell your son especially when you were making a big deal about your H seeing another woman while married. You said you didn't want to get him confused about your situation any further but it seems by telling him, you might have confused him more.

In any event, you never did respond to many posters' questions to you about what kind of help you were getting and what steps you were taking to move on.

You fall into the same patterns all the time. You condemn your H, then you say you can't live without him, then you blame the OW, then you complain about how you are so unsure about your financial future, then you say you can't take it any more, etc. And round and round it goes.

It's conflict avoidance at it's worse. In fact, you don't even talk to your H. What positive action have you done?

I agree with kml, tell him you want a good normal car like a Toyota, or a Ford (because I like Fords). Can you imagine the repair bills on that Rolls? He was just pulling your chain. Remember you said a while back he was talking about buying a Rolls for a lot of money?
And about your S knowing you went out on a date, I commend you for telling him the truth, but if you really do want to be free to date, perhaps you might think about filing, like others have advised. You are the one who was cheated on, you have the scriptural right to D your H on the grounds of infidelity, and then be able to remarry. Yeah, I know what the world says, but I go by what the Bible says.
I don't think MrBond thinks the worst of you, it's just the way he sees the situation re- you thinking your H was jealous about the date.
How is your S doing? I hope he enjoys his last year of H.S. My S is about to start freshman yr at college, and he told me the other day he enjoyed his senior year so much, he hated to see it end. I hope your S isn't too stressed out about things, kids shouldn't have to worry about adult things. That's why the people here tell you the same thing over and over. It's because most of us have kids, and would move heaven and earth to protect them.

my h asked my son to ask me to watch his dog because his mother had to go back in hospital. h has not asked me to watch her for at least a yr and half. i was going to say ill watch her during day but pick her up after work, my son can bring her out to his car.

i have the feeling something changed in his and ow relationship, but im trying not to think of what they are doing. im wondering y ow cant watch do, she lives there.

correction- y ow cant watch dog.