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Thank You everyone...

your advice is greatly needed today... THANK YOU SO MUCH!

I be back on the AD tomorrow.

Im sure the withdrawal is affecting me.

aalso everthing here at work is winding down too... 2 more weeks and im out of work. Every day another one of my friends is gone off to a new job...

johnnie

as contradictory as you talking one day and refusing to talk the next?

I am very even Keel with her, what I show or say here is not what my Wife is seeing. I am calm and collected with her. Last night I wasnt, I kept my distance because I didnt want to have a negative conversation with her. I was NOT i a good space after travelling through her A Partners town. thats why I chose not to interact. I dont know how long I can bottle these Affaie feelings up inside me... Its like an Acid in my gut that burning, I need to get out before it herts me more... Not sure how to do that without talking to her to get some questions answered...

Johnnie

yes, but.

you have to find more strength than that. i'm not trying to imply its easy. but to walk past her without talking is not good. what you felt going through his town is normal, and had nothing to do with her but you took it out on her. you have to overcome that and not let it affect your interaction with her.

and no, you cant ask her.

Thanks Ken

How shoulf I respond to her Email about the weekend?

Johnnie

just say, "OK thanks for the information. have fun."

if you already had plans for you and the children, then say "I was planning to take the kids to X at Y o'clock, can you please have them back by then"

and yes, to invite her on your plans would be persuing.


and Johnnie, i'm sorry if i come across as cold, but if she wanted you to go, she would ask. and i do feel your pain, i was there too.

I guess Im just dissappointed because I was seeing what I tought here signs of life from her... I guess "Expect nothing" is the best way to live with a WAW.

Johnnie

yes, we all understand that.

its not so much "Expect Nothing" but "No Expectations"

there is a difference.

Here is the response I sent to her...

"BTW, I called CAS this morning and reported the incident, It is a huge relief off my mind. I was really bothering me all weekend. by the time I got home last night, I just needed to go to bed...



Are you feeling better?



J"

Does that look OK?

Lets try that again...

"OK

Thanks for the heads up

Are you taking the kids with you on Sunday?

BTW, I called CAS this morning and reported the incident, It is a huge relief off my mind. I was really bothering me all weekend. by the time I got home last night, I just needed to go to bed...



Are you feeling better?



J