First, I think you need to be sleeping in your bed, in your room, do not move out.
Agreed.
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I do think that you made the best decision you could make last night.
Disagree.
I think him sleeping on the floor there just comes across as strange.
And like I said above the “sneaking” into bed also comes across as strange and kind of creepy.
rh, if you are going to stand your ground about sleeping in your bed, I think you should be clear about it. Not just trying to “slip” in while she isn’t looking.
My 2 pennies.
BITS
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
If you decide to sleep in your bed (and I certainly hope you do), and she says "What are you doing?" or "I don't want you here," (or something similar), say "I understand you feel that way, but I decided that I'm most comfortable in my own bed, and there's no reason why I shouldn't sleep here. You're perfectly welcome to stay, and I hope you do, but if you don't want to, I understand that too."
Thanks, but that stance is pretty much conventional wisdom around here. One of the "consensus" issues: DON'T move out of YOUR home, or even your marital bed.
If you decide to sleep in your bed (and I certainly hope you do), and she says "What are you doing?" or "I don't want you here," (or something similar), say "I understand you feel that way, but I decided that I'm most comfortable in my own bed, and there's no reason why I shouldn't sleep here. You're perfectly welcome to stay, and I hope you do, but if you don't want to, I understand that too."
Starsky
Freakin' perfect ^^^^^^^^
Originally Posted By: rh24
That's GOLD, Starsky, GOLD!
AHHHHHH YUP!
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I do think that you made the best decision you could make last night.
Disagree.
I think him sleeping on the floor there just comes across as strange.
And like I said above the “sneaking” into bed also comes across as strange and kind of creepy.
rh, if you are going to stand your ground about sleeping in your bed, I think you should be clear about it. Not just trying to “slip” in while she isn’t looking.
My 2 pennies. [/quote]
I actually do agree also......
What I meant is that in rh's current state of mind he made the best decision he was capable of making at the time.
Once he gets his "DB pilot wings" he will be able to navigate the nastiest sh!t storm that could be conjured up by any WAW.
That is the other reason to keep a safe distance until you calm down and learn the ropes.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
Sorry, the last part of that post should have looked like this.........freaking edit button.
Originally Posted By: Country_Song
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I do think that you made the best decision you could make last night.
Disagree.
I think him sleeping on the floor there just comes across as strange.
And like I said above the “sneaking” into bed also comes across as strange and kind of creepy.
rh, if you are going to stand your ground about sleeping in your bed, I think you should be clear about it. Not just trying to “slip” in while she isn’t looking.
My 2 pennies.
I actually do agree also......
What I meant is that in rh's current state of mind he made the best decision he was capable of making at the time.
Once he gets his "DB pilot wings" he will be able to navigate the nastiest sh!t storm that could be conjured up by any WAW.
That is the other reason to keep a safe distance until you calm down and learn the ropes.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
