X continues to demonstrate more interest in I think I believe his MLC rants now, that he didn't really love me. I didn't want to believe them But I think I believe them now. I think I was someone he got together with because I was responsible, which meant he didn't have to be.
Amazing how rewritten history starts to blend in with what was real as TIME goes by.
I am sure you did not get married because the two of you didn't love each other.
During MLC they are incapable of love. I do not believe one minute that your ex did not love you. They are projecting their "unlovable" feelings about themselves. Don't buy into his rants, I won't let you.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I think I believe his MLC rants now, that he didn't really love me. I didn't want to believe them But I think I believe them now. I think I was someone he got together with because I was responsible, which meant he didn't have to be.
I hear you here. Especially the colored part. I believe I was convienent, confident, competant, and in the end that's what he wanted to be himself and I didn't serve his purposes anymore.
BITS Me-51, WAS-52 Kids 2 M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013 Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice. Love is a action and choice you make, every day.
Sometimes I think I see some progress in X's behavior (in terms of him being more mature and showing an interest in D) but today was not one of those days.
I just do not think D is a priority to X. In one breath I hear that he is not up for this and that--then he is off on vacation, probably w/New Woman.
I find myself thinking some on what I would think if I were in New Woman's shoes. She is not OW because X was divorced when he met her. But does she wonder why X is going on vacation without his kid and without having vacation time WITH his kid?
Note to singles: It's a red flag if someone is willing to vacation with you but does not express any sort of desire to spend more time w/his or her kids.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
He could be playing the victim to NW, saying that you are limiting access or something like that.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
I was thinking that I haven't spoken w/X in a serious conversation for so long, I do not know who he is any more. I do not know if I would like him any more.
But...sometimes I still miss him. If that makes any sense.
Again, I am not sure I would ever be fully "over" him. There has been so much damage.
Otherwise, I have worked hard on myself and my life. I think I have created a nice life for D.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
