One thing I think helps. Focus on today, the moment at hand.
For most of us when this *crap* hits the fan we get wrapped up in a warped sense of psychological time. Everything exists in the past and in the future. Our mistakes of the past. "What will happen" in the future.
This ignores the only real time we have. And that is now.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
Ironically enough, I heard this song (Asia from the 80s - I may be dating myself) when I was out to eat with my S last night. I just kind of cringed at the lyrics, but then I realized time can be our friend around here, too. So - hopefully time will tell us what we want to hear.
Personal feelings aside, which are conflicted, I have no moderating authority except in MLC and Piecing.
If you hit the notify button on a post a copy of that post is sent to the moderators of that forum, it also allows you to add a message to be read by the moderators, usually used in why you telling them why you hit the notify button.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
the first anniversaries are tough, but i passed the second without noticing. i realized it a few days after. i have to work to remind myself of x's bday so i can prep daughter. now all those dates mean nothing.
so it does get easier.
as far as the d crying at drop off, mine still does this on occasion, this morning at school in fact. and its still tough. i dont think the x has the capacity to think its about her though, in my case she probably finds a way to make it my fault. i gave up expecting her to ever see her fault in what our d goes through.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
CS, it sounds like you got through the day OK. It's sad that the major event was updating your signature.
Originally Posted By: Country_Song
Normally D would have waken her up with a big kiss and a present this morning. But those are things they give up.
True. It is what it is. Unfortunately, our hands are also forced to give up some things we'd rather not due to their actions, too.
I've passed one of these milestones myself. Mrs. jbnati turned 44 13 days after the bomb. I bought her some presents - my DB'ing was still in its infancy. I think she really wanted a D decree for her birthday.
