I guess I'll be going into work late after i drop D11at school and I'll need to find someone to pick her up after school and watch her until Im done. This is just more of the same from my w. I don't think I'll be responding to her texts.
What about a text saying, "Ok, but please make sure you pick up D11 from school on time."?
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
I considered that, but I know what her response would be. She would just start into her same old story about how she has done everything for the kids for years and now it's her turn to have fun for herself and I need to cover the kid duties. I dropped D11 off to school this morning and I arranged for the sitter to watch her until I get off work. At this point, this type of behavior from my W is expected so I always have a contingency plan when she does these things. I am just grateful that I have my family and friends in the area that are willing to pitch in and help when needed, and I have support from W's family. I am also grateful for my friends at work and employer for their understanding and support, plus the advice I get here. I guess a big part of keeping a PMA (positive mental attitude) is the ability to count your blessings, which I have done a lot of lately.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
W got home today around 3:00 pm. I figure it was around then because that's when she send me a text asking where D11 was. I responded and told her that the sitter picked her up at school and watched her for the afternoon. W responded "oh that's what i figured." I got home later after taking S14 to see his ic and didn't really speak much to W. I didn't ask about her weekend and she didn't ask me about mine. I did hear her ask D11 labout what we did this weekend and my daughter went into great detail about everything we did and all the fun we had. My S14 told me on the way to ic last night that he spoke to mom last night and unloaded on her about how he felt about her life choices and how he loves her but can't trust or respect her and doesn't like her as a person.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
Not much to talk about today I left the car at home and took the bike to work so w could run errands. I also gave her some money so she could open her own checking account. She is going to need one because she starts her new job on Monday. W and D11 ran errands and stopped by d's new school to pick up the registration paperwork, saving me a trip. W is on her way out to go watch the phillies game somewhere. D11 is all excited that mom is going out because that means it's father-daughter night.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
I gave her $25 cash because that is the minimum deposit required to open a new checking account. Our old joint account was closed and she needs to have an account so she can set up direct deposits with her new job.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
Update: I got home tonight around 9:00 pm. Went to happy hour after work to hang out with some work friends. D11 is getting ready for bed and i noticed pc in my office was on but i always turn it off. I logged on so i could shut it down. Checked the internet history out of habit, and saw that someone has been shopping for k-y lubricant and moisturizer. I guess w and OM have been having "issues". I know it does me no good to snoop, but it's a habit and i always check because I know S14 sometimes visits inappropriate sites. Ok, sometimes i check out of idle curiosity just to see what W is up to. The only reason i am mentioning this is that i felt nothing when i saw what W was searching for. I knew she was looking for k-y lubricant and i know what she was using it for, but it didn't bother me at all. I guess this means I have been successful in emotionally detaching myself. i guess i passed the test since a few months ago this information would have been devastating for me. This is just more evidence that Im ready to move on.
Me 46 W 43 M 17 S 14 D 11 ILYB 9/2010 EA began July/August 2010 ? PA began Nov/Dec 2010 ? I began DB in Jan 2011 I filed 7/12/11 Kids and I moved out 7/30/11 I'm in it for the kids and me.
