seems to me that h wonders what I'm up to when I just do my own thang.
h bought himself a new tv for the basement (I had bought a small one for the kids when h wasn't living here cause I don't need a big tv and neither do they) not a big screen but almost..so he's been parked down there pretty much all the time since the 24th watching football games or highlights etc.
We had "his" family over for a christmas and after they left and we put the kids to bed he returned (actually he was down there much of the day) to the basement and I lit myself a fire in the family room and watched what I wanted to...he came up a few times..looked at the fire and blew on it to make it roar a bit more....I later went to the basement fridge for a soda he said "I would have brought one up for you" (I wasn't about to ask him to bring me up a soda) he asked me to come down and watch football with him but I said no thank you...why not he asked...well I'm wathcing this movie...he came up again to deliver another soda that I didn't ask for but I thanked him...he's come up a couple time wondering what I'm doing.
sheesh!
I'm not doing anything..just watching tv by the fire and occassionally snoopin around the bb ( I assume he knows that's what I'm doing when I type here as he knows I come here)
guys are so freakin weird...spend time with them and they could care less...go do your own thing and they wonder where you are.
LL oh ya and one of the times he came up he said "you did a great job this week, it's a lot of work and you did it" and then gave me a peck on the cheek.
the lot of work is the buying of gifts for everyone but me, wrapping them, baking cookies, cooking the meals, cleaning the house from all the shtuff. Had two christmas dinners here one for 17 and todays for 15 horsdourves to desserts and all h had to do was bring in a couple of folding chairs buy and wrap my gifts and show up...so it's nice to know I'm appreciated...now can I sleep for about a year????!!!!
ooooh...one thing I always say when people ask what I want for a gift is A DAY OFF! so bil and his w gave us a gift cert to dinner AND said...whenever you want to go just let us know and we'll come watch the kids! now that's a gift I like.
hey did I somehow manage to slip a complaint in there?? well I suppose all is not lost I still have a few days left in this year before I start with the resolutions.
shiny,
in answer to your inquiry, "my" family does help out with the food. Each person either asks what they can make or bring or they just bring something (brothers gf even brought a nice calzone and other brother brought some fruit) we all stay together no men dissapearing all day to watch sports. H's family??? well usually h's grandmother always brings some desserts..bil's wife makes brownies or something (but didn't start that until after comming every weekend all summer empty handed I finally aksed if they would bring something) well this holiday the only person to bring anything was an uncle who doesn't usually attend (they brought a bottle of wine) but the ladies did help do the dishes. As you can guess most of the men did end up downstairs with h watching football but they didn't all stay down there as much as h. H did piss me off at one point before all arived while I was trying to get the food ready son wanted to go outside and asked h, h said no (cause he was watching football) so me in my high-heel boots busy cooking went outside with him instead (gee and h wonders why son is more excited to help mommy bake than to sit and watch football with daddy)
I dunno.
funny thang is sons 3rd birthday occured just after h moved out and at that party h couldn't do enough...constantly asking what needed to be done..helping me with the food etc...now he wont go near the stove and once again didn't bring the folding chairs in til we were about to sit down and eat despite the fact that I said I needed them first thing in the morning (a bit of a reminder of the easter that h said "I can't do this anymore" this meaning be my h)
I'm not depressed, I'm not angry, I'm not anything....just slowly loosing interest in the m and know that by the time h does anything (like his little stirrings of last night) it will be to little to late.
LL, As much as I hate to admit it to myself nad others, I am really almost at the end of my rope with my H. It's been over two yrs and he does not begin to give me what I need. He cheated on me for over two yrs before I found out. He does not like to talk about it. When they really wake up, they are willing to do just about anything it seems. When and if my H does it may well be too late. Rachael
I have a great idea. Why don't you take me out to dinner and just have your h stay home and watch the kids...and please wear the high-heeled boots!!!!!
sometimes ya gotta reach that point where you're just not waiting anymore...
imp,
sure I'll take you out to dinner..but can we bring along a few chaperones in the form of dbr's if ya don't mind...I don't want to be responsible for the effect my boots may have on you!
so my son is adorable...let's just hope that his daddy doesn't rub off on him too much...
he's outside playing with his shovel and I'm sitting on the front porch watching him.. I tell him he looks like he's about 10 (he's 4) he say's "I'm going to be grown up soon" I say "what are you going to do when you grow up" "well I'll drive a tractor to break up this ice" "will you live here" "yup" "will you do your own laundry" "yup" "will you mop the floor" "yup" "will you cook" "yup" will you cook for me" "sure!" "will you make your own bed" "yup" "you can live here forever then" "smile from son" "will you have a wife" "son says nope and points at me"
now aint that just cute!
I know it's not ever going to be reality but heck he does already fight with me for the vaccum and I can't bake a darn thing without him wanting to help me so I'll take it while I can and hope that he some day meets a nice person to SHARE his life with and I'll try not to be to sad to lose the little guy.
Precious LL. My yougest son was like that. I never wanted him to grow up but he did. He's 6'3" and plays basketball.(very well too,if I can brag a little) He was and still is the light in my life. He may be leaving for college next year and I'll be alone. That scares me, but I'll be OK. I have you guys! Cherish this time with your son. Time goes by too, too quickly! Rachael
Precious LL. My yougest son was like that. I never wanted him to grow up but he did. He's 6'3" and plays basketball.(very well too,if I can brag a little) He was and still is the light in my life. He may be leaving for college next year and I'll be alone. That scares me, but I'll be OK. I have you guys! Cherish this time with your son. Time goes by too, too quickly! Rachael
