Well she's told me she has NO respect for me at all but I need to say that for myself. Right now she has gone right back to her anger during the first bomb that there really is no way of talking to her.
I go back to IC tomorrow and I think that will be beneficial for me. I did a lot of great work there and realizing my W's comments lately there are some other things I need to do for myself.
She is working all weekend so I will have alone time with the kids which always lists my spirits.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Your free time will be an opportunity for you to start living again.
GAL is the one thing where I have not excelled at DB'ing. I haven't had MY time in so long I wouldn't know where to begin. I have put so much energy into the kids and my M that I have been neglecting me.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
Well she's told me she has NO respect for me at all but I need to say that for myself. Right now she has gone right back to her anger during the first bomb that there really is no way of talking to her
Have you read "Hold onto your NUTS" ?
Great read to became the men you want to be. She my not respect you now but when you continue to live by your NUTS- (Non-negotiable Unaltered TermS) she will in the future. Showing anger against you is still a good sign. It shows she still has feeling, emotions.
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I go back to IC tomorrow and I think that will be beneficial for me. I did a lot of great work there and realizing my W's comments lately there are some other things I need to do for myself.
Continue to do IC for you. Good Job.
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She is working all weekend so I will have alone time with the kids which always lists my spirits.
make the best of it! Bottle the those feeling when your around the kids and release them in her presents. She'll start to wonder "why the he!! is bm7 so happy?" I feel like crap and so should he. Don't let her bring you down, be the rock.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
GAL is the one thing where I have not excelled at DB'ing. I haven't had MY time in so long I wouldn't know where to begin. I have put so much energy into the kids and my M that I have been neglecting me.
This is an important part to the process. It works on money level. It helps you to not think about the sitch so much. It helps you to find yourself again, let's face it, when we get married we lose out individualness(?) we become inmeshed with our spouse. We lose our Identity. It helps rediscovering old hobbies or new ones. IT MAKES YOU BECOME ATTRACTIVE AGAIN.
That's the key.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
make the best of it! Bottle the those feeling when your around the kids and release them in her presents. She'll start to wonder "why the he!! is bm7 so happy?" I feel like crap and so should he. Don't let her bring you down, be the rock.
That's one of the things I need to work on. Being happy in front of her. She does claim that she is a happy person all the time but I bring her down.
When it is just me and the kids we have a great time. We do so many things together and my W claims that they only do the fun stuff with me because I have control of the money. This was one of the issues she had in the past that i controlled the finances. When we first started working on things I put everything down by the computer so she can have full access to anything. And when she asked for money to do this or that I never told her no.
I told her that what the kids and I do doesn't cost any money. Whether it be going to the library, the playground having play dates or just playing in the yard we're always doing something and for wahtever reason she hates me for it.
One other thing I forgot to mention is that she wanted me to sleep on the couch. I told her no. If she was the one that didn't want to work on things then I wasn't going to be the one to leave the bedroom.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
This is an important part to the process. It works on money level. It helps you to not think about the sitch so much. It helps you to find yourself again, let's face it, when we get married we lose out individualness(?) we become inmeshed with our spouse. We lose our Identity. It helps rediscovering old hobbies or new ones. IT MAKES YOU BECOME ATTRACTIVE AGAIN.
I still did most of the things that I enjoyed after we got married right up until my mother died. After that I put so much focus on my family that I stopped doing everything completely. When we first started piecing i left the weekedns open that my W didn't work so we could do things together. I'm going to put a better effort into getting back to the things I like to do.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
"One other thing I forgot to mention is that she wanted me to sleep on the couch. I told her no. If she was the one that didn't want to work on things then I wasn't going to be the one to leave the bedroom."
Well played. I made the mistake of moving out of our bedroom the week I was bombed ("I'll show her what wonderful guy I am and fall on my sword...") and now attempting to move back in would lead to more problems, so I remain in the spare bedroom.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
That's one of the things I need to work on. Being happy in front of her
. I know it's hard to do. When you can do it, it shows you are completely detached. The WAW also hates that you're happy and their suffering.
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She does claim that she is a happy person all the time but I bring her down.
We are not responsible for others happiness. appiness comes from within. The same goes for unhappiness. It's not you, it's her . She is deciding to be unhappy when youre around.
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my W claims that they only do the fun stuff with me because I have control of the money.
Lame excuse.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
