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Meeting with a lawyer in a short while. Hoping to use family mediation, but want to make sure I understand my rights.

Planning to ask about a morality clause.

Met with the lawyer - she says I'm in a really good position and do not need to compromise on what I think is best for S7 - recommended against a 3 day/4 day thing as she's seen it be too hard for the kids. Will meet with our family therapist tonight to get her recommendation.

She agreed about the morality clause, which is nice.

Signed up to audition for a local chorus - they rehearse on Tuesdays, so that would be fun. Also looking at season tickets to the symphony - lots of good stuff coming this fall.

I'm glad you went to see a lawyer to learn more about your rights.

Met what what I am now calling our "family therapist" today - formerly our marriage counselor.

Made some great strides in figuring out how to tell S7, and also how to ease him into spending time in a different house. She was firmly in my camp that we can't rush it - H wants to be at 3 nights a week within the month - not happening!

That said, he got the house 4 blocks away, so yay!

Had a really good day today - I'm sure I'll feel down this evening, as the late night and early morning are hard, but feeling better than I have in weeks.

I'm glad you feel better about things.


When I have a good day, it makes me feel like I can conquer anything.

Having a good morning - maybe the first one since he dropped the bomb in May. Wow.

He's sleeping at his new house now, but he was back at my house before S7 woke up - just til next Friday, then we can go to a more "normal" schedule.

He's getting all the account switched to my name - 3 weeks ago it would have made me cry for hours. Now I'm just like, 'I wonder what he set my password to be?'

I'm actually getting excited to change around some things in the house - new stuff on the walls (all the paintings were his), possibly redoing the bedroom (the layout bugs me and I want new bedding), and curtains in the living room that *I* pick!

I'm also wondering if the reality of what he's giving up will set in soon - it seems unlikely, but we'll see.

Told him I'd be home late tonight as I'm going out with friends from work. Sunday I go car shopping.

I'm sure there are more bad days ahead, but right now I'm feeling good.

Aand just like I expected, feeling a little down right now. Not crushing despair, but definitely a little anxiety in the stomach, sad feelings, etc.

Probably not doing myself any favours by staying up 2 hours past my bedtime 2 nights in a row - getting enough sleep is important to emotional and physical well being.

At least tomorrow is the weekend and I can sleep in.

Struggling with anger right now. Trying to just breathe through it.

I'm worried, honestly, that telling S7 will upset him to the point that forgiving H in any capacity becomes impossible. Only 1 more week.

Went out for drinks with coworkers - had 2 hours of fun and chatting.

H took S7 out, and they're not back yet - miss S7, glad H isn't here. Hopefully I won't have to see him much this weekend.

Planning to take S7 to a movie tomorrow, and then car shopping on Sunday. Need more GAL stuff, though!

Ok, I seriously don't understand him.

They got back from Ikea, and gave me a package of cookies they bought me. I said to S7, "Thank you for thinking of me!" and he said, "It was Daddy's idea!" Then H said, "I hope it's ok that I bought you cookies .." I just said, "Of course, thank you for thinking of me!"

But. He's out looking at furniture for the house he's moving into so he can be with his "online soulmate" but buys me cookies.

His head must be a messy place.