My recommendation... higher a vocal coach... and have them stand one foot away from your dominant ear and yell at the top of their lungs for one hour. Six sessions of that and you might be ready...
IMO, IF she calls, answer. Say nothing, if possible. If opportunity arises and your emotions are in check, validate as appropriate. Then when she's mostly done and starts asking real questions, excuse yourself and tell her that you may be available to talk about it in a week, but if she has any questions, she could email them to you...
or some such...
I like the first part KD. LOL
Depending on where I am at when she calls, I think it is a good idea to answer. Might as well get it out of the way and avoid prolonging the inevitable. It will be interesting.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Yea i think you should answer the call. If not she might just build up more anger.
Indeed. I'm going to answer. Perhaps she won't even call. Who knows?
I just received a call and thought to myself, "here we go". My heart dropped. It was the office calling. LOL Don't sweat the small stuff, right? I'm just making myself a little crazy waiting for it to hit the fan.
I am in a better place today than I was last week when I was freaking out about the letter.
It is what it is.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
I am in a better place today than I was last week when I was freaking out about the letter.
That is very good. Being a geek one thing i did was to plot was my emotional state against date(been doing it for 3~4 months now). Not bad. It is a curve starts high, has bumps in the middle but is slowly settling down and plateauing out.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
I thought that the sh!t would have already hit the fan by now. Apparently my W hasn't been served with the orders from the court.
Perhaps it is a good thing. It will at least give her a decent 3 day weekend. Unless she gets served during the weekend.
My S5 has a cold, so she has been asking for updates on how he is feeling via TM. These exchanges have been friendly compared to the silliness that took place on Monday.
She has also asked me about D8 reading program that I take her to. D8 had been telling my W that she didn't feel challenged. I took care of this yesterday.
I have answered all of her questions to let her know that I am top of everything. She has thanked me several times.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
enjoy the respite while you can, and Happy INDEPENDENCE Day!!
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I just got off the phone with my L. The papers have made their way to my STBX. I am not sure when they were received, but she didn't call me in a state of rage. Surprisingly.
She has hired counsel and has responded to the ex parte. They are trying to get the judge to reconsider the grant. Her and her L are claiming that we frauded the court. I wish that I could remember everything my L read to me. There was something in there about me not working on our M, watching football, working too much, stooping so low, being an absent father, etc..etc.
Anyhow, they have requested that the hearing be moved up immediately.
My L is in the process of responding to their request. She has already left the judge a message letting him know that she is offended of the fraudulent claim.
I guess the gloves are off. I'm fine with it.
TBH, I feel better this week than I have since the bomb hit. Even before the bomb hit. I feel like I'm back to myself...just better.
This is the first post that I have called the mother to my children, my STBX. I am ready to move on and I am going to embrace this next chapter in my life. I hope that it is with my kids staying here in Cali with me.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
She has hired counsel and has responded to the ex parte. They are trying to get the judge to reconsider the grant. Her and her L are claiming that we frauded the court. I wish that I could remember everything my L read to me. There was something in there about me not working on our M, watching football, working too much, stooping so low, being an absent father, etc..etc.
Weak. And I suspect the good Judge will see it as such.
