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After spending way too much time on the boards (when I should be working ) I was wondering if we could establish a place to all meet and ask questions....and also to share some common concerns or issues. It could be like a support group.

I know that I will be reading about someone's sitch and want to know "How did she find out?" or "What happened next?" and it's like finding a needle in a haystack!

What do people think?

MZ

MZ,

I HAVE to warn you that posting personal contact information or another site to meet, like Skype is a big no-no around here.

You'll likely get banned or at the very least moderated for it.

What?! Not at all my intent.

Just a thread to SUMMARIZE everyone's sitch. A place to ask questions without having to go through 1050 posts to find out the answer.

Figured I'd at least warn you.

As for the support group, it is a good idea.

The problem with piecing...

While everyone is unique and different like a snowflake, when we first start to DB we all tend to fall within well established roles and ruts.

In piecing...that is when the unique and different dynamics of a relationship really come to the fore front.

This is a great example of needing to check things out with another and not just assume. Gosh....we are such good role models Jack! :-0

I'm learning so much on these boards as I read through everyone's sitches. It's very time consuming though!

As for piecing...I totally agree. Each R and M IS different. I know I just could not/would not settle for hiding my feelings in a R that is supposed to be open/honest. I did have to do that at first, in the beginning of piecing. I had to do DB techniques by the book because I wasn't sure where everything stood. NOW? I am wanting full disclosure and transparency. We are really a very different couple now. Whereas before we did a lot of independent activities etc. AND mostly by my choice. We are together for most off-working hours now. We are planning around each other more, checking our schedules, putting each other first (except when it comes to one of the boys of course) and that has been hard, but necessary and good. We were WAY too detached and disconnected.

Hey! I had a GREAT mother's day!

I wanted to start a thread that wasn't about any ONE person's journey. I want this to be a place to gather and meet and everyone can discuss without feelng like they are hyjacking a thread.

I have questions about a lot of people and what they are going through. Would LOVE to just talk about it and not have to appear on smeone else's thread to do so.

A few peeps I've been checking in on:
ChrisW, Jack-3-Beans, Augtan, Kalni, AliSuddenly, OhLaura, Knittedscsrf,Saffie......many more.

You're right. It's the tough DB work and the most fun and most rewarding. Let's help each other. This thread is a great idea.

I am in. I will answer any questions that anyone finds useful and I God knows I could use the support too. It's just that I am not on here as much, I am busy with...life and it seems that there is always something happening.
K

Kalni,

I was curious as to where your H is with piecing and how you two agree to do it.

My H doesn't know the term "piecing" but we have agreed to be as open and honest with ea other as possible. THAT is what I thought I had in my M. H lived in his head a lot. He was only child with much older parents.

H has been mad at me for things for YEARS! Never told me at all.
Example: our honeymoon (22 yrs ago!) was a complete fiasco. Not anyone's fault. For 22 years he took the blame for it and thought I blamed him. I never said anything! I don't/didn;t blame him at all!